(Closed) Clingy mother in law?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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4 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@debbieotoole:  I am in the same situation. Some mothers are afraid to let their sons go. My husband is in a tough place- he loves his wife and loves his mom too.

Your fiance will have to stand up for you and put some boundries down with his mother if the marriage is going to last. She is over stepping her boundries and the reason the son has to step in and not the wife as it will make the hurt feelings on his mother side less of an issue since her son is the one to talk to her about it. They are less likely to flare up if their pride and joy has requested vs the “evi” lady who took her son away.

It is important that you expess to your fiance your needs- it is fine to need space and nec.  for your sanity. That is the mothers problem if she is offended- she will learn over a long period of time that things are different and that is just the way life is. Stick to your needs and be assertive in tellling your fiance you need boundries set up.

Post # 4
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Tell your FI “I like your mother a lot but I don’t like some of her habits.  Let’s do what we can to minimize those habits.  They make me uncomfortable.”  Also– BOUNDARIES!  She should not have access to your facebook accounts if she uses that facebook friendship for evil. 

Your FI should also practice the following line, “Sorry mom, but that’s between debbieotoole and me.” 

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