Clique in the Bridal Party Makes Decisions that Benefit Them Only

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would come to the party with an airmattress if the other girls can’t come/share a hotel room.  The clique is going to look very awkward trying to kick you out that night.  But other than what you have already said, I wouldn’t say anything to the bride.  Dealing with bridesmaid drama is just going to hurt her leading up to her wedding. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Who’s paying for the room?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

They won’t be comfortable with you sleeping on their floor? They need to get over themselves! Also, if you’re all splitting costs, it wouldn’t be fair for you to pay for your share of this room, plus another room. If 2 rooms are needed, everyone should contibute to that. They can’t expect you to pay more because they say there’s no room for you.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Oh heck no. You have every right to be in that room. I wouldn’t even consider having to find another room, you are paying for this room so you get to sleep in it. Even if it’s not on a bed the other bridesmaid cannot exclude you. Of course you’re staying there, you’re paying for it! I’d say that to anyone who has a problem.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

If you all are splitting the cost, you all get a say. I would try and handle it yourself, but if the bride has to get involved then so be it – if I was the bride, I would be pissed off that 3 of my bridesmaids are trying to exclude the other 2.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

shoeghost:  yes. So they can either let you sleep on the air mattress or each cough up $200 so you can sleep in your own room. Something tells me they’ll try to pick neither.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

If you are helping to pay for the cost of the room, you definitely have rights to sleep in that room. Screw what those girls say, even if you pay just $10 as contribution for the room you still have claims to that room.

The bride really should be managing this cluster f*ck of BMs and how clique-ish they are acting towards everyone else.  The bride is the only person who can tell the other BMs what to do, and if she asked you to be a part of her bridal party than it is her responsibility to make sure you’re taken care of and not left out and treated like sh*t.

I would HATE to be in the position you are.  If I were you, and there are no other girls to split the costs for a 2nd room, I would take my air mattress into the hotel room and set-up my sleeping area. If they b*tch and complain, I would look at the loudest complainer straight in the eyes and say very sweetly, “Look if you have SO many problems with me being in this room, you are more than welcome to check-out a hotel room all to yourself.  I ALSO contributed and help PAY for this hotel room, so I have every right to be here.  If you’re so unhappy, I’m sure the hotel would be happy to find you another room across the hall.”

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

shoeghost: this happened to me, except they tried to exclude both myself and the other oot bm. We forged an alliance, survivor style. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee

Did the event happen already? How did everything pan out? My advice would’ve been to f-them….show up with air mattress in tow. They’re not going to kick you out, problem solved. They want to make you ‘feel’ left out so that you go seperate ways. you show them who is the adult and just act clueless to their mean girl style. THIS has always worked for me. kill them with fake kindness. they can’t resist and eventually feel bad enough to warm up to me.

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