Post # 1
Im just wondering if any other bees have ever had to help their FI when close family member(s) are not coming? My FI has three brothers, none of them are coming, two because of work (one lives in PA other works on a boat) and the third one can’t afford to come down. While we understand that they cannot attend, FI is having a really hard time with none of his siblings coming. Anyone have any advice?
(PS he was also planning on them being his groomsmen, and while we have made alternative arrangements, it made it even harder for him that none of them can make it)
Post # 3
I know how your FI feels…it looks like none of my siblings will be coming to our wedding. In my case though, they would be flying overseas and none are really willing to commit to flying here for us. My parents are coming, but that’s it. I struggled with it as well, but my FI made me shift my focus to the importance of those who are coming to our wedding. It still sucks when I think that none of my 8 living siblings will be there to support our wedding, so I think it’s something that will never really be resolved. There’s really isn’t any advice I can give in this situation except to support your FI (which I’m sure you do) and cheer him up as best you can. In the end, the people who care most for you wil be there. We’re going to hopefully have a video taken of our ceremony and then share that with the family who couldn’t fly over when we take our honeymoon trip to the US six months later.
Post # 4
If it helps at all, you can remind him to feel blessed that they WANT to come but unfortunately can’t. My mother won’t be attending my wedding because its not a Catholic cermony.
Maybe your FI could ask the brothers who are not attending to pay for the brother who doesn’t have the money to come – as a wedding present.
Post # 5
How far does the one with no money have to travel? I mean maybe that could be your “gift” to FI?