(Closed) Close friend assumes mutual friend is invited

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

If she is your BFF, you should be able to talk to her and let her know. If she doesn’t understand, you might just say something like “I am sorry you don’t understand that I do not want this acq at my wedding or anything involved with the wedding, but it is my decision and that is just the way it is.” If she gets too upset by it and starts an argument, maybe she really isn’t your BFF. JMHO

Post # 4
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Stop being so subtle? Don’t make it about the Acq (I have no idea how to spell that!). Just say, hey, you could really help me out by not talking about the wedding with people until I can get you an invite list. I don’t want to dissapoint or offend anyone, and with the economy as tough as it is right now, I will have to make some choices that will not be easy. So, if you can keep it under wraps as much as possible, that would be a huge help and it would avoid some heartache.

Actually, totally blame it on the economy. No one can feel totally safe in their job.

Post # 6
1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Sadly you are going to have to get used to telling people things like “sorry…we are having a small wedding” or whatever the reason is. It’s no fun at 1st but it gets better…. you will probably have to do it alot..it’s surprising how many people ASSUME they are coming to a wedding.

So just tell this person and anyone else, right when they say something “oh sorry…..”


It will be ok.  I think we all have dealt with this

Post # 7
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yikes! my situation isnt that bad but on of my BFs (who is one of my BMs) asked me if another friend of ours (her cousin) is invited to the wedding. I said no and she seemed surprised/upset but to be honest I havent kept in touch with the girl since high school and yes we see each other at parties and when we go out but I dont consider her close at all. Some people just think a wedding is a giant party and a free for all….which we all know its not!!

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