Post # 1
as many of you know, my Destination Wedding is wedding is coming up this summer in July and I’m having a hometown reception mid-August. She is one of my best friends…she wasn’t expecting this at all. She isn’t getting a whol lot of excitment from her family because up until recently, her relationship was extremely turmultous. So, I feel kinda bad..also I’m pretty sure most people suspect he proposed for shallow reasons…and that she may have agreed even though her better judgment tells her they aren’t ready….but that’s a long story.
The major problem is we celebrated her engagement last night…and we both got a little tipsy and she was over the moon about it all, and I just told her I’d take her to the wedding expo next weekend, etc. She said he wants to get married this September but she’s not sure if that’s too soon. She asked me to be MoH and ofcourse being a little tipsy and giddy I agreed…she said she was concerned I wouldnt have the time, but I wasn’t thinking and I told her we’d figure it out.
But I woke up this morning and was thinking…geez I will be in Mexico all summer and..my home reception ins mid-august…if she gets married in September that gives me almost no time to do anything for her….also I am applyin gto to nursing school this spring and if I get in I’ll be starting nursing school in September.
Obviously I need to sit her down to talk about this stuff…tell her she might have to rethink me as her MoH if she is set on doing it this September….
How would you reccomentd I say this without sounding like I don’t want to help or like I’m taking back what I already agreed to…
geez.. they don’t mix… wedding plans and cocktails.
Post # 3
First, see if she is still considering September, which should be easy enough at a wedding expo.
Just tell her you are really excited to be part of her wedding, but you realized you don’t have as much time as you origionally though and might not be as helpful as you should be as Maid/Matron of Honor. Say you’ll help as much as you can but really can’t be making any huge commitments and that you won’t even really be available until Mid-August.
Post # 4
@CoCoCourtney: Thanks..yeah, I’m guesisng most decent places will be booked in September anyways, she will see for herself when we get to the wedding expo.
Last time I went to an expo was about 5 months ago and even then most of the venues were booked through August-September. So, Hopefully she will decide to delay..outside of my own agenda….I obcviously think it would be wise for them to have a long engagement, but you can’t tell someone that! lol
Post # 5
Some brides are less needy than others–it could be that she’s going to be fairly independent and will be happy for you to do what you can
Post # 6
I think it’s okay to wait until after the expo, since it’s next weekend. If she still sounds gung-ho on September, ask her about her expectations for you. You want to help her out and be there, but since your wedding and reception are so close, you’re concerned that you may not be able to give her as much attention as she deserves, and that maybe it would be best for you to be a regular bridesmaid. Would that be okay with you?
It does boil down to her expectations. All but one of my bridesmaids live out of town, so I’m doing a lot on my own. Mine are basically just expected to show up for the rehearsal dinner and wedding. Good luck! Let us know how it goes.