- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I am so excited to say that as of yesterday, Darling Husband and I are homeowners! And we’re probably going to get to move in even sooner than I thought – our contract said the seller could take 10 days to move out, but they’ve said they are almost out and we might even be able to move in as soon as Monday! Eeek I’m so pumped =) We got a great deal on the house, it’s exactly what we were looking for.
I posted pics back when we had an accepted offer, http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/so-excited-we-got-our-house, and I also was complaining about my Mother-In-Law and how she kept wanting to have a say in the house, grilling us for prices and addresses, going to LOOK IN THE WINDOWS and then telling us what we should and shouldn’t buy, etc. Well, I think she picked up on the fact that we were kinda annoyed by all that. So instead of just backing off a little on the house front, she backed off completely. They’ve done things at their house that we are always invited over for without telling us, having just SIL’s family instead. When Darling Husband has wanted to go over there have told him that they’re busy. Zero interest or congrats as we went through the closing process. I wanted them to back off, but not completely…they’re still his parents, show some interest in your son’s life! It doesn’t have to be all or nothing!
So I tried to take the initiative and called Mother-In-Law a few days ago to chat. Then Darling Husband called her yesterday to tell her that we had closed on the house. When he told her she immediately laughed…and this is a woman who only laughs when she is being sarcastic or insulting, so I was immediately on edge. Then she asks what our monthly payments are, and before I could stop him Darling Husband tells her, to which she says, “That much?! I thought it would be way less than that, you guys should of shopped around, etc.” Darling Husband just told her we did shop around and it was a good deal. She kept going, also starting in on how much other things cost, and I refused to tell her, fudged the truth saying I didn’t have the numbers in front of me but I shopped around and we had gotten good prices. She kept going about how it didn’t sound like it to her, we should of let them help. Darling Husband finally said, “Mom, it’s taken care of, we have this under control, you don’t need to know the prices or worry about it.”
But of course, now that I called and she apparantely thinks that means she has the control and can be over-involved again, they want us to go over to dinner tonight. I said yes back before that disaster of a phone call. I just know she is going to want to question us on all the prices and act shocked and like we paid too much all night. For the record, we are paying $660 a month for a home that was just built in 2006 and is an awesome house. We are not overpaying, she just thinks we should of bought an older house that would of been too small and not at all our style. They also wanted us to let them buy a house and then us rent it, I’ve learned that is their way of keeping control – they paid off my car as a wedding gift, we never asked for it, and now whenever I do something they don’t like with it, like road trips or whatever, they think they have a say and try to tell us what I can and can’t do with my car.
Any suggestions on clear but not rude things I can say to shut down the money talk that will inevitably happen tonight? I wish they could just say congrats and be happy for us like my parents, Darling Husband was soooo excited, then after her phone call was just like totally deflated.