'closing' the guest list

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It doesn’t matter for STD. Send them only to the people you KNOW you will be inviting. If more people are added later, you can send a STD or just wait and send an invitation. 

Post # 4
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We ended up “closing” our guestlist once we reached a certain amount of people invited. We are totally over what we wanted to go over so I HAD to close it a few weeks ago or he would have kept adding people.

Post # 5
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Just send the STDs to the people definitely invited. I’ve asked my FMIL for their guest list since January and still don’t have it. I’m sending out STDs next month with or without her list. 

Post # 6
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926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We set ours before sending STDs and only added one more after those went out.  I always left it open if anyone wanted to add more as we went, but no one ever did.  Once the invites went out, then it was closed.

Post # 7
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189 posts
Blushing bee

I dont really see the point of an std so if i didnt get one it wouldnt bother me. Besides, if theyre getting an invitation anyways…..does it matter?

Post # 8
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Glasgowbound:  This.

We closed our guestlist last summer. We had people try to make additions with WEEKS to the wedding, and we said absolutely not, the guest list is and has been final for months. End of story.

Post # 9
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

You can always add to the list, but once the STDs go out, there’s no taking people off the list!

Post # 11
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189 posts
Blushing bee

@MsGinkgo:  Ok. Im kind of in the same boat. Our wedding will be in my hometown, but luckily bf/fi is only inviting family. so word of mouth works for us.
Although since the majority of your guests are out of town, I think sending them later works. I mean whose going to compare when they got stds!

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