Post # 1
I didn’t know where else to ask this (in the online world) so I figured this was as good a place as any.
I have a funeral to attend tomorrow for my uncle. I have a grey dress that could work, but I feel weird wearing it since I’ve worn this dress to a few happy occasions (such as my rehearsal dinner). I’m debating if I should go out and buy a new dress.
When I was in high school I bought a dress for my grandmother’s funeral and I never wore it again for the same reason – it was a dress that I wore to a sad occasion and when I looked at the dress, I thought of her funeral.
Is this weird? Should I just go buy a new dress in case the dress I have now ends up holding sad memories as well?
Post # 2
wear something black that you will be comfortable in. Nobody cares about your clothing as long as you aren’t being flashy. I’m sorry for your loss, don’t buy a new dress if you already have something you can wear.
Post # 3
You need a little black dress. That’s what’s great about them – they are so flexible that you can wear them to just about anything. Simple and Classic. They have no memories.
Sorry for your loss.
Post # 4
anonkitty: Personally, I don’t attach a ton of importance to which outfit was worn to what occasion (there isn’t a single piece of clothing I would hesitate to wear because something good/bad happened to me in the past while I was wearing it), but I truly believe that the choice is entirely up to you. I doubt anyone would find fault with either option (as in, no one is going to say, “how dare she wear that grey dress to the funeral” or “why on earth did she buy brand new clothes for this occasion”) If you personally feel like wearing the dress to the funeral would taint your memories of other occasions in which you have or will wear that dress, then perhaps a new dress is the better option.
Post # 5
anonkitty: Like amanda.417 I don’t really develop emotional connections to clothes, so if I was you I would wear the grey dress. Gone are the days where everyone wears all black to a funeral so I think as long as it’s not flashy it would be fine. I think it’s silly to buy a dress for the sole reason of the funeral, but that’s just me. If you think that whatever you wear will become full of sad memories, don’t wear something you love and currently always wear, instead buy something cheap – the quality doesn’t have to be amazing as you’ll only wear it once.