(Closed) clueless Bride to be…SOS

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Could you be a little more broad?

Haha…just kidding. Just take it one step at a time. Think of all the things you want, don’t want, have to have, etc. and take it from there. Get a venue and photographer first, since they will probably set your date for you. After you know the look/feel of the venue, you can move forward with flowers, food, etc.

If you really don’t know what you’re doing, look into any “all inclusive” places. My venue includes all the food, drinks, cake, tablecloths, chairs, lighting, setup, cleanup, etc., so maybe that’s something you could look into.

Post # 4
2158 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d suggest signing up with a site like the Knot. They have a very detailed to do list with a timeline to help you get started. Plus they provide you with lots of ideas and budgeting tools

Post # 5
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just elope.

Post # 6
1999 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I started with the venue.  Decide if you want a traditional church wedding, or if you’d rather do a wedding all in one location, etc and go look at some venues.  Once you pick the venue, it will likely help you decide the date and then you can start asking vendors if they are available for your date.  I agree that theknot.com is helpful, but it can be overwhelming as well, especially with that damn checklist!

Post # 7
2731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Eva Peron: Haha! You’re the funniest bee I know.

Post # 8
959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@beetrying: I was in your same shoes before I got engaged but I learned quickly by reading wedding magazines likes Brides and becoming a member on the Wedding Bee. The wedding magazines gives you tips in many areas and some (like Brides) provide a timeline as to when to get things done. My Future Mother-In-Law even got my Fiance and I an awesome wedding planning folder organizer which gives you money saving tips and important questions you should ask to specific vendors.

Since you have less than a year to go but you still have time, sit down and discuss with your Fiance about a budget (if you haven’t already) and create a list of possible dates you are interested in. Once you have that start searching for your ceremony/reception venues. Once you have those then I suggest to research for photographers and also, you can start dress shopping (when you order a dress it may take up 4 or more months to arrive but it all depends on the designer). In my opinion, these are the most important items when planning for a wedding and everything else that you need would be easier to concentrate and obtain.

Lastly, if you ever have any questions or concerns just post it on the Bee! We all do it and we all get honest but positive feedback from the rest of the members.

Good luck to you!

Post # 9
14498 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Determine your budget.

Estimate a guest list

Determine what time of year you want to get married and a general theme/formality

Start looking for Venues that will fit your estimated guest list/them/formality/budget


I used Martha Stewart Weddings Planning tools.  She has a great timeline, Fabulous guest list keeper, seating charts, and budget keeper.  I highly recommend it!

Good luck and welcome to the Hive!



Post # 10
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Google “A Practical Wedding”, if you like it, there is a more organized companion book to the website that you should be able to get through amazon if you’re American (I’m canadian, so mine is still on pre-order). 

Post # 11
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

The lady from a practical wedding just wrote a book.  that website is all about figuring out what is important to you and skipping the rest.  

Post # 12
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@beetrying:  And start by putting together a list of who you want at the wedding (with the groom).  That is a great place to start as it will show you what kind of event you are heading toward. 

Post # 13
879 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I got a really nice and FREE wedding planner notebook from 1800Registry (thanks to Weddingbee) and just signed up for Weddingwire (once again, thanks to weddingbee!)  Both are very helpful!

Google will also answer just about any question you have.  Take it one step at a time. Tskjewelery offered you a great starting checklist.

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