Post # 1
What do you guys think about them?
Honestly I don’t even get the point! Isn’t it supposed to be about going out and being wild? What makes it any difference from any other night out if your SO is there too?
Post # 3
That’s one way to look at it, yes. But I don’t think “being wild” is a good way to send yourself off into a lifetime commitment, so I’m all for them. It’s fun to go out in a big group.
Post # 4
Well we planned on having our parties on the same night.. but not together. NOW he’s having his tis friday and I’m having mine saturday (as planned) and its kind of annoying! I wish we could have had them on the same day.
Post # 5
I guess it depends on what you think of as being wild. I dont think of it as anything I wouldnt tell my FH I did.
@snake: I like the idea of having them on the same night, that way its kinda even I just mean the ones who have joint ones like at the same places with both sets of friends
Post # 6
I love the idea, It’s what we plan on doing………… a weekend camping trip with ALL our friends…….. but none of their kids
Post # 7
Based on some previous threads that have covered this topic I’ve come to the conclusion that these are just not a good idea!
Post # 8
I really don’t get it either. You can hang out with eachother for the rest of your lives why do you need to share a bachelor/bachelorette party?
Post # 9
I’m all for them. My Fiance is in AA so it wouldn’t be fair for me to go out and drink and be “wild”. Plus I would rather have him with me, after 12 years I would feel weird if he wasn’t there. We’re trying to figure out something that will be fun for the both of us. I guess it really depends on your situation though.
Post # 10
Depends on what kind of party you want. Neither Fiance or I are going to do anything at our parties that we wouldn’t be comfortable with the other being present for so…a joint party would be fun for us!
Post # 11
depends on how you look at it i guess… we are doing a separated party during the day (he’s going to a theme park with the boys, i’m going to a spa with the girls) and then we’re all getting together for dinner and clubbing because we (all!) just have more fun partying in a big group than splitting off based solely on sex. maybe we just aren’t very “wild” 🙂
Post # 12
This is what we did. It was actually really fun. We went to a casino with all the boys and girls. The guys went off to do something in the afternoon while the girls went to the spa. We all met up for drinks and dinner. Then we partied together for a while, then split up for a good while, then met back up for late night snack and back the hotel rooms. I guess it all depends on what you want out of your respective parties. We definitely wanted to go out and get dressed up and have some drinks and the girls wanted to dance and whatnot, but neither of us wanted a crazy wild party. Not to mention, we all like hanging out with eachother and our guests were mostly couples too.
Post # 13
Personally I have no problem with them. But for me, I really value my “time with the girls” and my Fiance loves “guys nights” so we will want to do separate activities. After we’re married, we’ll being going out “as a couple” a lot more, I suspect.
Post # 14
I personally would never have done it and that’s not because Darling Husband and I wanted to do anything “wild” at our parties. Nothing was done that we wouldn’t have been perfectly happy for the other to have been there to witness.
Bachelor / Bachelorette parties are supposed to be a time when you can relax and have fun with your besties before the big day. Not a time to hang out with your SO. Everyone needs so time that’s just for them and not for the couple – it’s healthy!
Plus I’ve seen too many posts about joint parties gone wrong – I just don’t think it’s a good idea.
Post # 15
We went out together with our wedding party and friends bowling and then to a bar – we had a blast. It may not be everyones cup of tea but if that is what the bride and groom want. My husband and I always had a blast going out together – we enjoy each others company and we had so much that night! To each his own!
Post # 16
Personally not a fan… but to each their own! 🙂