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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    I'm throwing a baby shower for a friend, and she asked if it would be possible to invite the guys, as her husband is looking forward to being a dad probably even more than she's psyched to be a mom. Has anyone hosted or attended a co-ed baby shower? What things do you suggest I do to make it interesting for both genders? Alternatively, what should I avoid?

     
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    Bostongrl25    December 2017  

    The dads have been at most of the baby showers I have attended. And the last one had her brothers and grandfather there, although they sort of stayed in the background and didn't get involved too much.

    Honestly, I dont know too many guys that would be interested in attending a baby shower. Most showers are usually light food, a few silly games, and watching the mom-to-be opening gifts.

     
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    AnnieAAA    October 25, 2009   Dallas, TX

    I've been to a co-ed baby shower, and it was more like a BBQ party vs. a typical baby shower. No games, just relaxed and ate. The couple did open their presents in front of all of us, so that was really the only typical part. It was fun & casual :)

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    @Bostongrl25: I'm also nervous that I'll end up inviting a bunch of guys and none of them will show up, or that they'll attend and sit in the corner, bored. So, I'm trying to gear it a bit more toward both genders, by having food/activities/etc that are appealing to men and women, which is why I'm looking for suggestions as to what has worked for people in the past.

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    @AnnieAAA: That's probably what I'll end up doing, since I can't imagine a lot of guys wanting to play "typical" shower games. And actually, I know quite a few women who also wouldn't want to participate! But if people have creative ideas for games that will be interesting and fun for both men and women, that would be awesome.

     
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    als87    April 30, 2011   Florida

    I've had the same experience as AnnieAAA. Aside from cake and presents, it was definitely more of a relaxed BBQ (but still really fun).

     
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    harmonyeee    May 8, 2009  

    i've been to one co-ed baby shower and it was really fun. but it was a little different - it was more like a large dinner party with none of the typical baby shower games or decorations. it was very much an adult party with great food, drinks, and coversation. everyone seemed to have a great time (especially the mom-to-be!) so if you're friend is open to something a little different, i would recommend that :)

     
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    wagamama    9/19/2009   Seattle

    We're doing a co-ed baby shower. The emphasis is on fun and casual.   The guys who are invited are spouses/partners of my female friends or my husband's guy friends. Guys bring a lot of fun and humor to the shower.  

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    I think that, if you want to play games, the more active/physical games would be best at involving the men. 

    Like the game where you have to drink out of a baby bottle and see who can finish it the fastest; you could even put beer in the baby bottles to make that game a little more "adult." 

    Or the game where everyone puts a big balloon under their shirts and has to race to tie your shoes the fastest.  Anything with competition and physical activity is more likely to draw in the male crowd, I think.

    And a quick Google search also shows this diaper changing relay race which might be fun:  Everyone splits into two teams.  Each team gets one baby doll, and on the other side of the room is a "diaper changing station" with diapers, wipes, and baby powder.  The first person on each team races to the changing station, takes the baby's diaper off, wipes it, powders it, and puts a fresh diaper on.  Then, they race back to the rest of their team and give it to the next person in line; repeat.

     
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    My favorite baby showers have actually been co-ed.  They're less cutesy and it is fun to see the dads-to-be excitement too.  The ones I've been to have either been heavy hors d'ouerves & drinks or a casual BBQ where the only part of it that seemed different than other gatherings was the part where you stopped to watch them open gifts for a while.  Some good co-ed baby themed, but not annoying games are guess the due date (I think they just posted something about the winner on their Facebook page so no real prize, but the guys enjoyed making their picks at the shower) and if they're having trouble with names some sort of name game (submit a name or vote for a name type of thing).  If you have booze and a room for them to escape to and talk football, etc. when their eyes glaze over with all the baby talk, the guys will be fine.  I've had to drag my hubby to them in the past, but he always leaves having had a good time.

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    I've been to a coed baby shower and I'm planning to have one. The one that I went to I feel wasn't that great for guys. First of all, it was on the day of a football game so they were all constantly checking the scores and trying to watch the game on their phone. Plus, there were games, which they just weren't interested in. There was good food though!

    We're having my shower at a minor league baseball stadium. We'll rent a suite. That way the boys will be able to watch the game while the girls talk babies and open gifts.

     
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    TheFutureMcBride    August 2010   Virginia

    My shower is actually being planned by guys, so I totally believe guys can be a part of a baby shower and have fun. It's all about making it fun for everyone.

     
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    jaylovessteez    September 19, 2010   CA

    I have been to co-ed baby showers and they were fun.. the few that i have been to the games had men drinking beer out of baby bottles, changing baby dolls diapers. it was actually pretty fun to see the men play these games... even though it was baby shower games guys are so competitive they were all trying so hard to win LOL

    I would want my baby shower to be co-ed when we do end up prego

     
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    kperry3    January 1, 1991  

    I hosted a co-ed baby shower a few months ago. It was for both of my FSILs. There were probably 6 guys there, and I realized that while opening presents they all disappeared! They stayed for maybe 10 minutes into opening... and then all went outside to hang out with each other :) They DID enjoy one of our games, which was "who can change a babies diaper the fastest... blindfolded". That was the hit of the entire baby shower!

    I didn't want to invite the guys, because I knew they would be bored... but my FMIL said she wanted it to be a family event for various reasons. I'm not going to lie, sitting there watching them opening present (even as I was helping) was entirely boring. If guys are there, you should get some fast action "baby" games, and then release them during present time. :)

     
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    Gerbera    August 7, 2010   NY

    aw. I love the idea of a co-ed baby shower. The dad is having a baby too!

    If my husband is up for it I would totally have a co-ed shower. :D

    I think the gals whom went with something fun and casual, BBQs and alike have the right idea. I'm not much of a game person anyway. :P

     
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    piperhallie    July 14, 2012   Bay Area, CA

    @redherring: Hi! I'm actually attending my first co-ed baby shower this weekend. This isn't surprising since our friends are both teachers and VERY involved with kids and they're expecting their first baby in June. Anyway, they've planned a BBQ with games and opening gifts, and I know it well be fun since they've hosted regular parties/BBQs before and have incorporated everyone at all ages. As long as you have something for everyone, it'll be a hit!

     
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    Gerbera    August 7, 2010   NY

    aw. There are some really cute ideas on this article. Scroll to the bottom. :)

    ETA: Oops, here's the article

    http://www.babycenter.com/0_coed-baby-showers_8243.bc

     
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    StbHisMrs    October 20, 2010  

    I went to one about a year ago and it was fun for the guys.  They had a bbq and beer, then for games they geared them mostly towards the guys with a few typical ones

    Race to put the pack 'n play together - this was the best one!  They had 2 pack 'n plays and the guys had to race to put them together.

    The typical memory game, drink the bottle the fastest and a few other less exciting ones.

     

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