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I love co-ed showers. We had a co-ed baby shower. We had two, actually. One thrown by friends and one thrown by family. And they worked out really well.
I'm not a typical shower kind of person. I hate the games and the decorations, and I can't say I love being the center of attention. I asked my husband if he would be up for a co-ed shower so that we could both enjoy the "showering," and he agreed to it. I didn't tell him it was because I didn't want to be in the spotlight alone, but I think if I did it just would have given him more incentive to do it.
I also told both hosts that I would prefer that we skip the decorations and the games and just enjoy everyone's company over good food, good drink, and good music. My husband's cousin really couldn't understand why I wanted something so simple, but she went along with it! The other host was thrilled to not have to do any of that stuff.
In any event, if you frame it to your husband that it's just a big party where you happen to open gifts, maybe he'll be more open to it?
Good luck!
I am not pregnant, but I went to a co-ed baby shower earlier this year and I thought it was so cool. My hubby actually didn't mind going and it was kind of cute to see him play the games. I really liked it as well because you got to see the excitement on both the parents faces... instead of just the mommy!
We went to a co-ed shower and most of the women there sat and watched the presents being opened (and the dad) but the rest of the guys just hung out. I think that works best when there is flexibility b/c the majority of men do not want to sit and watch people open baby presents for a long duration. Heck, even I would get bored.
@regberadaisy: For my husband, strangely enough, it was the decor and the food.
Our baby shower will be between Christmas and New Year's, so when I told him that the decor would still be all Christmas, so that meant reds, greens, and browns, he felt better. The promise of no pastels went a long way toward making it a guy friendly event.
then he asked me if it was going to be fancy girly food, and I promised that we'd have something he could eat like a man, and bingo. No more complaining after that...
What that food is, I don't exactly know, but I'll figure something out!
Ours is going to be co-ed. It's going to probably be a big brunch party for all of our friends thrown by my mother. We'll do some games but not anything too girly. DH seems pretty excited to be involved, since we'll basically get to have a get together with all of our friends out of it.
Ours is girls only, my husband really doesn't want to have a co-ed one. Ours is out of town anyway, so he is going out to breakfast and watch sports with the rest of the guys while us girls do a shower. I'm definitely not the shower type, but my SIL's was fun and they promised me minimal games, and it will mostly be visiting with family anyway.
We recently went to a co-ed shower for a friend- the guys didn't know that it was actually a shower ;) We just said it was a party at a friends house with beer, so no arguments were made. Basically the girls hung out in the living room and played a few games, while the guys grilled and hung out in the kitchen and drank. It helped that at least 4 of us there were pregnant, so there were plenty of designated drivers. They even had a few guy themed games. Everyone had a really good time, although a few of the guys accused their spouses of tricking them to get them to go.
@regberadaisy:my BIL and SIL had a co-ed shower. Everyone got really into the clothes/onesie decorating. They had sharpies and puff paint and TONS of clothes/hats/onesies/socks etc.
They had some games that were a little silly, but it was nice to be there with the whole family.
I fully intend not to have a shower at all.
I think co-ed showers are great, when the daddy to be wants to be a big part of the shower. However, if it really isn't what your guy wants, why push it? All men are different, try to figure out what works best for you, by asking a lot of questions and giving him freedom to help shape the shower or bow out gracefully.
I like the idea of co-ed showers because I feel like it makes them more about getting together with yummy food and talking and less about pink everywhere and super girly girl stuff, which I'm not into anyway.
I love the idea of co-ed showers. I threw one for my best friend earlier this year and it went really well. We were about half and half since most people that came were couples. It really just felt like a party but with presents for the baby. We didnt play any games or anything like that.
Thanks for all your input. Like many of you I'm not a big "shower" person either. So I don't foresee bottle games, et al, at my baby shower. I really just want a big get together with close family and friends.
I fully intend not to have a shower at all.
Hehe. This made me laugh.
I have no intention of forcing him to go to the shower and trust me my husband is not the type to be forced into something he does not want to. I just wanted to see if there were other guys that were OK with going to a co-ed shower. And if so, what made it OK for them. Just trying to gain some other perspectives. And we've only talked about it like twice, so we'll see.
We are having two showers. the first my mom is throwing for us and is women guests only, BUT my husband will be there. It is his baby too! i realy gave him no choice and he never said otherwise. (He was at our wedding shower as well, but that's how it's done where I'm from.) Our second shower is being thrown by his mom and will be coed. It's more a shower for him as it's his family and coworkers (and wives). I'm totally on board with this as well. This first is a more traditional baby shower whereas the second is more of a get together for the football game on a Sunday.
I really prefer coed showers, I find them to be so much more fun and entertaining. More like a big get-together than anything else.
I had a coed shower. I hate being center of attention, so I didn't really give my hubby a choice! I wanted him there with me while opening presents.
But it ended up being very boy friendly and tons of fun. We had it in the suite at a minor league baseball stadium. My husband got to throw out the first pitch, so he got to have his moment in the spot light too :) My mom, sister, and SIL decorated the place all in pink to make me happy (we had a little girl) and the boys were able to watch baseball, drink beer, etc, so everybody was happy. There were no games, just opening gifts, eating, and mingling.
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For those of you that are thinking of or had a co-ed baby shower. How did you get your husband on board?
I really want a co-ed shower!!! I just feel like it's his baby too so why should the shower be just for me? I don't want him to just show up at the end to carry the gifts out to the car. :( I told him we can have it at a place where there are maybe 2 spaces and the guys can hang out and maybe we all just come together during gift opening or something and during food.
He just thinks baby showers are too girly. It's not like I'm the I Love Pink type and if we were to have a girl it will be pink and frilly. Even at my bridal shower we didn't do TP games or anything because it's just not my style.
I know co-ed baby showers are more common now than they used to be. But honestly there's only been one recent baby in his family and that was a all girl. The guys (mainly the husband and husband of her siblings) ended up waiting at the bar downstairs the whole time.
My shower will be in the dead of winter so backyard baby-ques are not possible.
I envision the baby shower more of everyone gets together kind of event.
Thoughts?