- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
FH and I are really social people….we almost always hang out together with our close friends….now, while i do love hanging out with just my ‘girls’ once in awhile, i often find that i enjoy it more when we hang out all together…FH agrees with me….
so when the topic came up about our bachelor and bachelorette parties, we have had our fair share of going to bars and clubs and frankly i want to do something different…so i suggested we do something co-ed….with just the friends we hang out with on a regular basis…possibly rent a house out near the poconos for the weekend (one of my BMs can get a super cheap deal) and do girls vs guys games and the like….we wouldn’t even have to spend the whole time together, the girls could go off and do something and the guys could do something and then we could come back and drink and chill the rest of the night…..FH said that sounded fun and was cool with it…so i mention it to my BMs when we had a little get together and i think they were on board and liked the idea….but when i mentioned it to one of the GMs, he was like, sounds fun, but i hope you know i’ma borrow PapaHusky on a different night and we’re gonna go out and have fun…..well, not in those exact words but pretty much saying that he’s throwing him a bachelor night regardless of if we do a coed night/weekend or not…..
now bees, i have no problem with this…..i dont care if FH has a bachelor party or what they do or whatever… what i need advice on though is whether we should still do a coed bach./bachelorette knowing FH is gonna have a separate bachelor night?? i’m torn cuz the selfish part of me is like, well, then i want our own night too….but my original coed idea sounded like so much fun in my head, i’m torn cuz i want that but i think my girls will feel some type of way for not having our own girls/bachelorette night….
should i scratch the coed idea altogether?? if FH and I really want the coed party, should we offer to pay for a girls/guys weekend and then have separate bachelorette and bachelor nights that the BMs and GMs host?? is that overkill though?? what do yous think??