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I personally think that co-hosting a shower is enough. I also personally think that giving someone a diaper cake that cost about $100 to make is enough. And doing both of those is DEFINITELY enough!
Don't worry too much about random people. I'm sure the mom-to-be will feel very loved by all of your efforts to help put the shower together AND give her an additional gift!
I think that sounds extremely generous.
Hosting a shower, in itself, is a huge gift. The diaper cake (which is awesome, btw) is icing.
Thanks ladies. I thought what I was doing was more than enough especially considering my FSIL never appreciates anything.
This is more than enough !! Throwing any kind of shower is PRICEY!! especially when you are about to get married
sounds like more than enough for me! i'm sure she will appreciate both the shower and the diaper cake, and won't even think twice about an additional gift.
I personally think that is more than enough. And I saw your diaper cake, it's freaking awesome. You're also going to be doing stuff the day of the party since you're hosting. It's mooore than enough in my book.
Personally, I never think the hosts of any kind of shower should never have to buy a gift - showers, while totally fun to plan, are expensive and time consuming! What you've done already is gift enough.
I think you're more than covered. $300 has got you covered since your hosting it and have made a homemade and useful gift! Maybe write her a heart felt card!
@lilybay: Thats exactly how I feel. I've made it perfectly clear to my bridesmaids that I want NOTHING from them for my shower (or wedding for that matter). Showers are expensive (I should know, this is like the 8th I've thrown) and imo, hosts shouldn't be expected to give a gift ontop of it.
i'm not of the camp that thinks hosting means that you don't need to get a gift, but your diaper cake was AMAZING and is MORE than enough of a gift. no need to get anything else. for sure.
Having hosted several parties for others, that is always my gift. If someone expects me to give a gift on top of that whoo-ee they are a little greedy! You did your part. Ignore the naysayers.
I think the only other thing you need to do is get her a card. I scrapbooked all of mine so I was glad to get one from everyone :)
Maybe I'm just incredibly naive, but $200 for a portion of the shower? Holy hell, that's a lot of money for a party. If you don't mind my asking, what all makes up those costs? I know food can get expensive if you're trying to feed a lot of people, but $400 (I am guessing that's the total amount, since you are co-hosting?) seems like an awful lot.
Yeah, I would never expect any of my friends to drop $300 on a shower, so to spend that and then get a gift on top of that would be way overly generous. You have done enough.
I'm solely hosting my friend's bridal shower, and I'm planning on just making a gift or buying her a really small one. I only have so much money, ya know? :) I think what you've done is fine, I would just get her a nice card.
ETA: That really is a bitching diaper cake :).
@Tatum: The scary thing is, my portion isn’t even half. My FMIL and I are throwing it and I’d say she’ll probably have spent upwards of $500 when it’s all said and done (NOT including her gift of the $200 bedding that they registered for AND the crib!). The shower is at her house too, so it’s not like we’re paying a catering fee or anything. It’s a little outrageous!
Thanks for confirming my feelings on this subject, ladies. I actually decided to enlist one of my bridesmaids to make my FSIL a feeding cover. It’s moreso to give my friend the business than to get something additional for FSIL but I guess it works out to both of their benefit.
That's plenty! One of my favorite gifts for my baby shower was from my SIL, she made roses out of socks and cupcakes out of onesies. So she had to buy the socks and onesies... but she obviously put a lot of work into it and they were so cute!
DEFINITELY enough! Especially since you know she doesn't appreciate stuff :)
And awesome, when it comes time for me to have a baby shower, you can host it, ha!
:)
@Tatum: I help co-host a shower for my aunt... there were 6 of us giving money and my portion was 250-300$ ( cant remember exactly).... and the shower was in someones HOME... its amazing how expensive these things can get...
$1800 for a shower?? I am morbidly curious- what all did you spend money on? Even with a huge guest list, I just can't see how food and decorations could add up to that much!!
$500 and it's at her house? What is all that for? My shower is at a venue and it's $350 so far!
The diaper cake is enough, especially since it's something she will actually use!
Oh wow this is an expensive party! I think you've done more than enough and I really hope she appreciates it!!!
I was going to say that you should also get a gift until I saw how much the diaper cake was and how much you spent on the shower itself. If you personally don't feel like it is enough I would go the rought of a giftcard with a simple $25 as an aside to the diaper cake. Which by the way, that cake is SUPER ADORBS!
I was wondering this too...i'm co-hosting a shower for my fsil and when all said and done, i will be spending just as much. I made all the decorations and will be making some of the food too. I was wondering if we needed to get a gift too..and we might just add a gift card...i made a diaper bath train instead..it's so fun to do..but so very time consuming.
@MsMamaBear: Seems crazy expensive but it definitely adds up...
Me:
@MsBrooklynA: I definitely don't feel like I have to give anything else but I'm going to have my friend make her a feeding cover and I'll cover the costs. It's more to help my friend out (moneys been tight for her) than give FSIL anything else. She'll just happen to end up with an awesome feeding cover!
@ForeverYoung: That's nuts!
@thewheelsonthebus: I'll be a pro by then! =)
@swtTea: OMG, that's adorable!! We're in the same boat and I don't think you need to give anything more either.
@Tatum: It was RIDICULOUS.... I had already agree to contribute so i felt a little stuck. But they decided to get it cattered...and they wanted to buy her her stroller and her glidder and what felt like half of her registry....plus all the thank you gifts and the gifts for the game....and the decorations....AND I was expected to get a personal gift also. I understand it was a bit of a special circumstance my aunt was 40...had been trying for 13 years to have a baby and through IVF succeeded... but STILL
Oh,ok. It doesn't look like I expected spread out.LOL
Hoe she likes the cake. I'd love to get it at my shower!
Oh that's fine. I hosted my FSIL's baby shower a few months ago, and just gave her a few things (that totaled maybe $30) on her registry. I don't think you have to give anything extra. She was so grateful that I hosted her baby shower.... cause apparently nobody else was going to. Your FSIL will be fine with the awesome diaper cake :)
@thewheelsonthebus: Lol, the stupid book display is this sling bookcase thing that FMIL is obsessed with. I normally wouldn’t refer to it as “stupid” but it kind of is. FMIL decided that she wanted to get this bookcase back when we first started planning the shower but then we found out that FSILs father was going to be building them a bookcase for the nursery. FMIL was still dead set on ordering the bookcase because as she put it “they can still use it for something”. I don’t know. I think it’s a waste of money on-top of everything else she’s already done for them. Besides, their nursery is pretty small so unless they plan on setting up the damn thing inside the crib, I’m not really sure where they plan to put it.
Update to the outrageous budget…
So, you remember how I was saying that my FMIL’s portion was already close to $500? Well, add another $70 onto that for cupcake wrappers. CUPCAKE. WRAPPERS. So far we have 13 people who are coming and she spent $70 on cupcake wrappers. I’m floored.
@UpstateCait: That's hilarious. Both the bookcase and the cupcake wrappers!
And by hilarious, I mean both hysterical and completely mind boggling.
When and where is this shower? I hope she doesn't expect cupcake wrappers at her surprise party ;)
@thewheelsonthebus: 2 weeks from today and it's at her house. This shower better be blog worthy for all the work I'm putting into it. I spent 5 hours last night making the bunting.
@UpstateCait: Oh jeez! I've been putting off making a mini bunting for one of my cake toppers... I should've just had you do it, ha!
:) We all expect lots of photos!
Unless its pretty basic, showers are pretty expensive. Each of my daughter's were in the $1200. range (without gifts) for 20 and 30 people. Baby showers will be the same if not more!
@smyley: Yikes! That's pricey. One of the bridal showers I threw was in the $800 range but I'd just about die if I had to throw a $1200 shower.
I always just assumed at home showers would be more cost effective but I guess it really depends on how fancy you want to get. The problem with this shower is that my FSIL has already had her shower with her side of the family so we think my FMIL is trying to compensate for that. She wants it to be bigger and better which I don't necessarily think is a bad thing but things can certainly be done for cheaper. The bunting I just made cost me $22 for the supplies and I've seen similiar ones for sale on Etsy for upwards of $100. She's the kind of person who wouldn't think to make it, she'd just buy it. I, for one, much prefer the cheaper, more personalized DIY alternative.
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As you read in the subject line, I’m co-hosting my FSIL’s baby shower in the next few weeks and I made a pretty bitchin’ diaper cake (you can check it out here). Is this enough or do I have to get her a gift off their registry as well?
With our wedding coming up in 4 months, the majority of our extra money is going towards that. My portion of the shower is running me close to $200 and the diaper cake cost about $100 to make (I didn’t have any of the supplies so I had to buy pretty much everything). I’ve already shelled out close to $300 for this shower and I’d really prefer to not have to cough up any more dough that really should be going towards paying for things for our wedding. A few people have asked me what else I plan on getting her and when I reply with “um, nothing” their facial expressions lead me to believe that they don’t think what I’m doing is enough.
What do you think?