- Miss T-Rex
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
I have been asked to be my friends Maid/Matron of Honor, which I am thrilled to be a part of her day and to be there as her right hand man just makes me soo excited because I am going to spoil her rotten. (I kinda love her a lot)
With that said I am also sharing the role with another girl. I am totally fine with sharing the responsibilities etc of the role, however when this girl found out I was in the picture as well as a Maid/Matron of Honor she threw a little, tantrum would maybe be the word. She didn’t realize that our friend, B, had any friends outside of her and especially she had never heard of me. This girl appartently has abandonment issues and all sorts of things.
I understand a bit of her being offended, B and I have only been friends 6 months but its like I’ve known her forever, she is my best friend and B feels the same. She reluctantly agreed to it (as far as I have been told) and I even tried to resolve it by backing down to just a bridesmaid which only resulted in B crying because she loves me too much and won’t let me back down to keep the peace. (I personally just don’t want to deal with this crazy train; this girl is going to see me as a threat to her and B’s friendship and be super competive/controlling in the planning of everything, its just the vibe I’m getting)
We’re all having lunch together in about 3 weeks, all 7 of us, to meet and greet. I’m already worried about meeting her and trying to get on the same page… I don’t want ANYONE including myself to try to make this about anyone but B, because she is marrying a fantastic man and she should be enjoying the next 12 months not stressing because her co MOH’s aren’t getting along.
My biggest WTF is that when I asked B about their friendship and if 40 years from now they will still be friends, she said no, that she feels closer to me. I’m concerned she’s doing this out of an obligation because they always told each other they would be in each others weddings but this girl is already causing problems….
Please help, I need advice how to proceed…
*We’re all in our mid/early 20’s*