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Co-officiants..

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    melv0802    September 18, 2010   new jersey/philadelphia

    Hey bees..

    So my fiance and I are both different religions..he is a catholic, and I am baptist..we decided that we are getting married in my church, but he and his family would like a priest to be present to help officiate the wedding with the pastor...was just wondering, has anyone ever seen or been to a wedding where there were co-officiants? and how was it??? thanks!!

     
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    musingsfromhere    12 July 2008   Canada

    There's a thread on this here (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/two-officiants)--and I had 3 officiants, actually.  I think the key is to make sure they are both comfortable working together, and let them decide how to divide up the service.

     
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    Janna19    June 7, 2008   New York

    we had an interfaith service but chose one person to do it - primarily because we didn't want "this officiant is mine, that one is yours", and preferred the idea of a single person doing the service.  BUT our officiant often co-officiates with his wife as one is a rabbi and the other a pastor - I think the key is that they work well together so it feels cohesive!!

     
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    I don't know the answer to your question, but the Catholic Church has a bunch of restrictions and rules, so you'll want to double check with his priest to find out what the church does or does not allow.  I would think you could have priest give his blessing but you probably won't be considered "married" in the eyes of the catholic church unless it's IN the church... maybe others know more about this?  Anyway, I wanted to bring it up in case that is important to your FH.

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Definintely check with the priest first. Then if he's cool, make sure they talk the ceremony over beforehand! We went to a wedding this summer where the co-pastors met 5 minutes before the ceremony and it was really, really awkward. They tried to talk at the same time and did the wrong parts of the ceremony.

     
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    mary-alice-me    May 24, 2009   Kentucky

    I've been a guest at one wedding that had two officiants. I don't have the scoop on how it worked to plan, but it was a really nice ceremony and both officiants said that they were both there because the bride and groom were embracing their own, as well as the other's, background. I just wanted to speak up here to say that if you can swing it, it can be a really nice personal touch for your wedding if that's what you and your FI want. Good luck!

     
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    melv0802    September 18, 2010   new jersey/philadelphia

    thanks for the replies girls=) my fiance actually spoke with the priest who has co-officiated weddings with pastors and knows how it goes..and i spoke with my pastor and he said that he's sure there's a way that we can make it work..*phew* =) i was a bit nervous of how my pastor would react, but he seemed fine with it...thanks again bees=)

     

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