Post # 1
I have been friends with one of my co workers for about 8 months now. We go out to eat regulary and hang out every now and then. She is a great person and I have fun with her but i’ve been torn about asking her to be a bridesmaid.
She said something the other week that gave me pause… “When we plan your bachelorette party” which leads me to believe she thinks I am going to ask her. I am worried she is going to be really hurt if I don’t ask her but at the same time given that we haven’t been friends all that long and what if something happens? We literally sit in the same room for work so I feel like she is going to pissed at me if I dont ask but it’ll be even weirder if something happens! Either way I do want her at the wedding!
Post # 2
I wouldn’t but that’s me personally. I don’t think anyone can decide this except you. To me a co-worker is just that….a co-worker. 8 months isn’t long enough for me to have developed a strong enough relationship that I would want them by my side at my wedding.
Post # 3
elise2015: You could ask her to be a personal attendent if you’re not comfortable with a bridesmaid. I asked a very good friend of mine to be my personal attended just after about 8 months of a great friendship. She was VERY excited and will probably be apart of more planning than most of my bridesmaids.
Post # 4
elise2015: i wouldn’t read into the bachelorette thing. i haven’t asked anyone to be in my wedding yet and several friends are already planning a bachelorette; it’s because they want to, not because they have any expectation of being a BM.
besides, i think the answer is in your title: you referred to her as your coworker. she might be awesome, and a new friend, but she’s obviously still in coworker zone in your mind. do you guys go out together on the weekends? would you travel with her? idk, maybe it’s just me but i wouldn’t have someone in my bridal party that i wouldn’t hang out with in those other situations. i mean…this is the biggest day of your life.
Post # 5
onthefritz: what’s a “personal attendant”?
Post # 6
MeandMyLouboutins: They’re not actually in the wedding, but they’re there with you all day, making sure things go smoothly and help you with things. Pretty much a nice way of calling someone and “assistant” for the day I guess.
Post # 7
MeandMyLouboutins: something I wouldn’t want to be (for free). Lol
Post # 8
gelaine22: lol… it just feels like
“Hey, you arent special enough to be a bridesmaid but follow me around and make sure everything goes swell for the day?”
hahahaaa… just my opinion though.. obv it works for some people
Post # 9
elise2015: When is the wedding? Don’t ask your bridesmaids immediately if it’s still far away.
If she didn’t expect to be in the wedding – would you ask her? What’s your gut feeling? Would she be supportive or is she the attention hogging drama causing type?
Personally, I think 8 months is a relatively long time and you can know someone pretty well by then.
Post # 10
Maybe she means it colloquially, like you two will talk about it when it comes up? I wouldn’t want a coworker involved in my wedding unless we were friends before.