Co-worker as bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
8707 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t but that’s me personally. I don’t think anyone can decide this except you. To me a co-worker is just that….a co-worker. 8 months isn’t long enough for me to have developed a strong enough relationship that I would want them by my side at my wedding. 

Post # 3
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015


elise2015:  You could ask her to be a personal attendent if you’re not comfortable with a bridesmaid. I asked a very good friend of mine to be my personal attended just after about 8 months of a great friendship. She was VERY excited and will probably be apart of more planning than most of my bridesmaids.

Post # 4
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

elise2015:  i wouldn’t read into the bachelorette thing. i haven’t asked anyone to be in my wedding yet and several friends are already planning a bachelorette; it’s because they want to, not because they have any expectation of being a BM.

besides, i think the answer is in your title: you referred to her as your coworker. she might be awesome, and a new friend, but she’s obviously still in coworker zone in your mind. do you guys go out together on the weekends? would you travel with her? idk, maybe it’s just me but i wouldn’t have someone in my bridal party that i wouldn’t hang out with in those other situations. i mean…this is the biggest day of your life.

Post # 6
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015


MeandMyLouboutins:  They’re not actually in the wedding, but they’re there with you all day, making sure things go smoothly and help you with things. Pretty much a nice way of calling someone and “assistant” for the day I guess.

Post # 8
2772 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

gelaine22:  lol… it just feels like

“Hey, you arent special enough to be a bridesmaid but follow me around and make sure everything goes swell for the day?”

hahahaaa… just my opinion though.. obv it works for some people

Post # 9
5348 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

elise2015:  When is the wedding? Don’t ask your bridesmaids immediately if it’s still far away. 

If she didn’t expect to be in the wedding – would you ask her? What’s your gut feeling? Would she be supportive or is she the attention hogging drama causing type?

Personally, I think 8 months is a relatively long time and you can know someone pretty well by then. 

Post # 10
2464 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Maybe she means it colloquially, like you two will talk about it when it comes up? I wouldn’t want a coworker involved in my wedding unless we were friends before.

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