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Bottom line is you shouldn't invite her if you don't want her at your wedding. She's never made an effort to be your friend so doesn't deserve an invite. I know what it's like to be friendly to coworkers only to get snubbed in return. None of those people made it on my invite list.
Thanks, I was feeling a little weird about. I can honestly say I made numerous attempts, too.
While in my heart, I agree completely with moderndaisy, I would think twice about not inviting her. If you don't interact with her frequently at work, and she won't have an impact on your job or potentially moving up at your job, then maybe it would be okay to not invite her. But I'd also think about the oppinions of your coworkers and director if she were the only one of them that weren't invited. Do they have the same oppinion about her attitude and demeanor? I think, depneding on your guest list size, I would just invite her. Unless you're having a small wedding, you won't really notice her presence, but it might avoid any potential awkwardness at work.
I think you hit the nail on the head: if you don't invite her and everyone else starts talking about their invites, you ARE excluding her. It's hurtful. I know it sucks, but I think you should invite her if you're inviting everyone else. It's one thing to ignore someone, but something completely different to intentionally exclude them.
mrsstilly you bring up my exact feelings. I'm afraid my co-workers might think I do not like her but that is not the case it's just that she is not as friendly as the others. The others ask how I am and vice versa and we have conversation. Our department is small; I'm not inviting the coordinators, interns, or planners, but I feel that it is ok. I may even invite our office assistant because she is a very nice lady to me, too. I have more conversation with her than with that feale manager. eeek Invites are going out MOnday so I need to make a decision...
I think the politics may be tricky here. If it were me, I would invite her and hope she doesn't come. At the very least, your wedding will be big enough that you don't actually have to interact with her if she does. And better to air on the side of inclusion, than to make someone at work mad. That could have long lasting ramifications!
If its just an issue that you aren't as close to her or she's just not as friendly as the others then yes you need to invite her.
Kind of like kid birthday parties you had to invite the whole class or non of the class!
cazos- I like that the whole class or none of the class. Eeee I guess I'll invite her. I hope she doesn't think that I'm just soliciting for a gift. On the other hand, you know what I doubt she would invite me to her wedding if she got married and I'd be totally cool with that
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Ok Bees here is the situation:
In my department there are 3 other managers. Every 2 weeks the manager's meet with the Director to for updates. The 2 male managers are super cool and friendly and will be invited to the wedding, same with the Director my boss. The one female manager is not as friendly, I think it is just her personality but it seems like if she always has a stick up her bum. I mean when I say her I say Hi and she usually half smiles. The only time we have been to lunch together was because our Director invited us. It sucks because when I first came to work here I was excited that there was another female manager my age and maybe we could be friends but I quickly learned that wasn't really happening. I do not think it has anything to to with me I just think that is her personality.
I really do not care to invite her but the more I think about it I feel it would be leaving her out if I invite everyone else that I meet with on a regular basis but her. I may be over analyzing but what if leading up to the wedding we are in one of our meetings and folks are talking about the wedding and it creates awkwardness???
Waht do you guys think? Invite her or no I should not feel obligated to?