(Closed) Co-worker- Invite her or leave her out?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite her???
    Yes : (4 votes)
    31 %
    No : (9 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Bottom line is you shouldn’t invite her if you don’t want her at your wedding. She’s never made an effort to be your friend so doesn’t deserve an invite. I know what it’s like to be friendly to coworkers only to get snubbed in return. None of those people made it on my invite list.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1645 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    While in my heart, I agree completely with moderndaisy, I would think twice about not inviting her. If you don’t interact with her frequently at work, and she won’t have an impact on your job or potentially moving up at your job, then maybe it would be okay to not invite her. But I’d also think about the oppinions of your coworkers and director if she were the only one of them that weren’t invited. Do they have the same oppinion about her attitude and demeanor? I think, depneding on your guest list size, I would just invite her. Unless you’re having a small wedding, you won’t really notice her presence, but it might avoid any potential awkwardness at work.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think you hit the nail on the head: if you don’t invite her and everyone else starts talking about their invites, you ARE excluding her.  It’s hurtful.  I know it sucks, but I think you should invite her if you’re inviting everyone else.  It’s one thing to ignore someone, but something completely different to intentionally exclude them.

    Post # 8
    Member
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think the politics may be tricky here. If it were me, I would invite her and hope she doesn’t come. At the very least, your wedding will be big enough that you don’t actually have to interact with her if she does. And better to air on the side of inclusion, than to make someone at work mad. That could have long lasting ramifications!

    Post # 9
    Member
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    If its just an issue that you aren’t as close to her or she’s just not as friendly as the others then yes you need to invite her. 

    Kind of like kid birthday parties you had to invite the whole class or non of the class! 

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