Post # 1
I will not be able to invite my co-workers to the reception. Is it perceived as ok if I only invited them to the Catholic mass (ceremony)? I feel bad but I can’t afford to invite everyone to the reception.
What is everyone else doing about their colleagues at work?
Post # 3
No – I would not invite them to the ceremony if you couldn’t include them in the reception. It would be incredibly rude to do so.
Just don’t invite them at all.
Post # 4
No no no no! If you can’t invite them to both, I wouldn’t invite them at all.
Post # 5
I would be extremely offended if I was invited to the ceremony but not the reception.
Don’t invite your co-workers if they cannot come to both your ceremony and your reception.
Post # 6
@oracle: Are you sure about this? I am in the same boat but it’s not co-worker’s it’s FI’s extended family. Please advise further ! ! ! Panicking now…
Post # 7
I see how you are trying to be polite here, but i think it will be perceived as rude. You have a ton of time until you have to send invites, etc. so if I were you I would wait until the lastl minute and if you have space invite them to the ceremony and reception.
We waited until the last minute to invite coworkers, but also b/c there is so much turnover in our industry we didn’t know if we would still be friends with some people if they left the company. So none of them got a STD, but we did invite a good amount of them when the wedding was closer.
Post # 8
No. I would be quite offended.
Post # 9
Ugh! DO NOT DO THIS! I was invited to a co-workers wedding ceremony only…as were the other co-workers. We were all pretty offended. We knew she was having a reception but we weren’t invited. It put us in a crappy situation b/c no one really cared THAT much to see just the ceremony. Plus it was Catholic and a looooong mass. So I had to spend an hour at church on my Saturday off and I also had to put money towards a gift…I was not ok with this. And for those who say I didn’t HAVE to…it would have been very awkward for me NOT to go. It was not a fun situation.
Post # 10
I think it’s quite, um, what’s the word?, ‘not done’. I’d rather not get an invite than get one to come to a reception but not the wedding. I know that your heart is in the right place, lots of folks are tempted to do this due to budget constraints and having lots of people expecting an invitation, but if you can’t afford to have them at the reception, then don’t invite them to the wedding IMHO.
*Unlike PP, I wouldn’t go to a ceremony I was invited to if I wasn’t invited to the reception.
Post # 11
This is a HUGE no!! Regardless of who it is and what their relationship to you is, if you invite them to the ceremony you have to invite them to the reception. Just dont invite your coworkers at all if you cant afford it!
Post # 12
@mrtnza: If you can’t invite them to the reception, they shouldn’t be invited to the ceremony. I know you don’t mean it this way, but it’s perceived as “We want you to watch us get married but you’re not special enough to party with us and eat our food.” That’s a blunt generalization—I know that’s not how you mean it, I’m just trying to get a point across.
You’d be better off to not invite them at all, unfortunately. 🙁 I know that isn’t the answer you want to hear.
Post # 13
I have to agree with everyone else. I would laugh if I got an invite that said I was only invited to the ceremony. I mean, honestly, besides our VERY close family I’m sure no one was dying to watch me get married. I just wouldn’t invite them at all.
Post # 14
@Bee-loved: I’d be pretty peeved if I was invited to the ceremony only, and I think it would be even worse if I were extended family. Just don’t invite them to anything. If they’re local, perhaps you could arrange a family gathering (pot luck or something) to celebrate with the extended family.
Post # 15
@Bee-loved: I don’t want to make you panic, but I’d suggest re-thinking that approach.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t feel comfortable inviting people to one and not the other.