Co-workers: some invited, some NOT and how to get around it…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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906 posts
Busy bee

Personally I wouldn’t be doing wedding or pre wedding invites while at work, and also if it’s a small office you should probley invite all or none for coworkers. If it’s a big office then you might be ok. 

Post # 4
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Even if I worked ina print shop, I wouldn’t print my invites or anything like that at work.

I get around it by not mentioning it or bringing it to work with me.

Post # 5
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

Don’t write your personal business on your wall calendar at your job. If you don’t want to be confronted with nosey coworkers delving into your wedding business, then don’t involve your job with your wedding (i.e. don’t print your wedding things there). If you learn now to keep your work life and your personal life separate, you won’t have these types of problems.

Post # 6
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This happened to me. I wanted a small wedding with no more than 50 guests- well I work on a team of 30 people, not to mention other coworkers in the building that I’m close to. There was absolutely no way that I could invite everyone, but honestly I think that people understand that. I felt really awkward about leaving some of them out because I thought they were going to take it personally, but no one said a thing. Everyone was still happy for me and didn’t make it weird. I think I really stressed more than necessary over it.

I would just invite those that you are close to and genuinely want to attend.

Post # 7
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@BurlapnLace:  I haven’t actually sent out my invites yet but I will not be inviting everyone. There are SO many people at my job. I know etiquette is “all or none” but to be honest, I really don’t care. If I don’t talk to you much, then why should I invite you?? I only plan on inviting the people I talk to the most or are closest with – and if anyone was getting married at my job and didn’t invite me but invited others, it wouldn’t bother me one bit.

I would just be really careful with being discreet with the printing of the invites at work. And with the creepy guy, just don’t mention it, and if he asks just tell him you couldn’t afford to invite everyone.

Post # 9
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Can you run the prints after hours? Or print them early in the morning, or on a day this guy doesn’t come in/is out of the office?

I think being blunt about it is the best way to do it. “Sorry, our guest list was tight.” Don’t even say you’re sorry you couldn’t accomodate him – because you’re not. 😛

And BTW – have you mentioned your discomfort with this coworker’s behaviour to your boss?

 

Post # 10
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t think the printing of the invites even factors as a problem – good for you that you can do that at work.

It doean’t matter where you get things printed, people TALK about weddings/parties/babies – creepster and other people are going to know when the wedding is withou snooping on invites.

Be confident in your decision, invite those who are work ‘friends’ and tell thsoe rude enough to ask about an invite that numbers were limited.

If this guy makes you feel uncomfortable or is scary in any way, I’d be mentioning his behaviour to your boss…. it’s not OK. Just a thought – cna he still see your facebook profile – maybe he has a mutual friend and/or your settings are ‘open’?

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