- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Afternoon, Bees! TGIF!
I will start out just stipulating that I’m not here to incur fiery wraths from people, nor do I want advice so much as I just want to kind of vent a little and hear from other people that may be experiencing the same thing as I am. 🙂
I work in one of many offices for an agency that is very, very large. As such, there are a great number of personalities all in one place, and given that most of our work is clerical in nature, I work with 99% women.
Don’t get me wrong, women are great! But not all of them. I happen to be in a location where the upward mobility potential would require one to leave their position for something else entirely, and with sequestration, there’s no such thing as hiring here for the forseeable future. And even when there was, they were completely content (though their behavior doesn’t really support that) to just stay here and do their jobs.
But they are all, every one of them, utter, terrible, horrible, bitter gossips. There are a few exceptions, two of which are actually the poor men that happen to be in this office. The other is a select handful of people (including myself) that sit at their desk, quietly, with their face in the corner all day…but it’s so bad that even my boss engages in it.
My position here is actually as an intern – I’m still in college, so my schedule here is quite variable depending on the semester and classes I’m in. Until recently, I was gone for a few months doing field work toward my degree in a totally unrelated field with a small but friendly group of people.
I’m not sure how, but I had sort of let myself forget how gossipy these women are. And I’m not trying to badmouth them or give it to you one sided, but I will tell you that I was once put on trial over……a cupcake! (I took an extra one home to my FI without asking, oh dear baby jesus!) Some of the stories my friends and family have heard make their jaws hit the floor and FI just shakes his head and gives me props for dealing with them. They are always in groups whispering to each other, talking quietly among themselves, shooting others glances…They will have a co-worker from another section of the office come over to ask them a question, they will be super polite, and then as soon as that person is gone, they’re all whisper-whisper about what a moron said person is or that question is so stupid, or their office does this or that wrong, they’re all so incompetent.
I never really tolerated or got involved with it before I left, but now that I’m back I feel like maybe I’m more sensitive toward it, and I find that it’s irritating me even more! The person who sits directly behind me spends her whole day murmuring on the phone to god knows who. I don’t know what she’s saying, but I can hear her tone and I know she’s just going on about people. I do get snippets here and there that reinforce it (yesterday she was complaining about someone asking her if she felt better and how annoying this person was).
Thankfully, I am meeting with someone Monday to talk about lateral movement into a position that puts my skills to better use, but as our lunch was apparently shortened from an hour to 30 minutes while I was gone, I only get about 20 minutes to try to sell myself to this person. *crossfingers*
I guess I am just wondering if anyone else has to quietly smile, nod, and tolerate this kind of crap at their office? And what do you do about it, if anything?