Post # 1
Ok let me set the stage of our wedding/cocktail hour first.
We are getting married outside on the lawn of a vineyard we love, it’s very intimate, there’s a pretty patio with pergola etc… dinner is under a white tent on the lawn. Cocktail hour will be appx 1 hour. After the ceremony guests will head back to the “back yard” area and get a glass of wine or beer, flip through the calendar guest book, or play a game (we will have bocce ball and cornhole on the lawn). We will interrupt about 15 mins in to be announced and do our first dance. Then we probably only have 30-40 mins of cocktail hour left by that time. There will be no passed champagne or other bev’s, you have to go to the bar.
So… the planning sheet for the venue says to plan for 3 bites per person. My Fi and I were thinking perfect, we will get 3 different types of passed apps, each person can try one, some will try two of the same, some will try none, it will all even out.
The venue coordinator responded to me saying that we should plan for 3 bites per person PER ITEM we choose! That to me is just insane! You have to have a variety, and who needs 9 appetizers before dinner in a 45 min time span!? (all i can think is oink oink lol)
So we have decided to ignore her. We have 120 people, we have chosen to plan for 150 pieces, of each of three different HD’s. We figure that will balance out and when they are gone they are gone. When I go to weddings I try one of each if I can and when they are gone it never bothers me.
I should note – that if she is corect there will be NO passed apps (way too expensive) and just cheese trays etc… which I can’t imagine most people actually going over and making themselves a plate of cheese and antipasto etc
So, will we have enough?
Post # 3
I am having the same issue – 1 hour cocktail but we are having a 5 course meal with huge entrees – and the cocktail hour is at 6PM leaving over 2 hours between the reception. We are having antipasto platters and cheese plates during cocktail, but we cancelled having anything else because it would just be too much.
I think 3 pieces is more than fair though, if people know they are going to eat dinner in an hour 9 pieces would be huge (depending on the actual hordeurves.
Post # 4
We planned for 8 pieces per person for 1 hour break. People were definitely filling up and ate a lot of it. I dont know exactly how many were eaten and if there was left over, but I certainly didnt get any complaints about it. I wanted to go with 5 or 6 cause that’s what I normally consume, and would eat more if it was there, but my mother didnt think it was enough.
Post # 5
Maybe it’s just me, but I would eat way more than 3 pieces in a 45 minute period even if I was being served dinner. Can you compromise and order like 5 or 6 pieces person?
Post # 6
Personally, I think that’s enough. Not everyone will eat them and some will have more so it balances out.
Our venue is suggesting 5-6 per person for the same time period followed by a 5 course meal. I am thinking we’ll do 4-5 (and decide on the actual number later) since I don’t need anyone too full before dinner begins.
Post # 7
I personally don’t think that’s enough. Depending on your guests, sme may grab 2 or 3 at a time, thinking there are plenty. I don’t think 150 pieces for 120 people is near enough, unless you tell everyone to only take one lol.
Edit: I misunderstood–so 450 total? That is better but I still think you may run out.
Post # 8
We are doing more, but we are also having a longer cocktail hour (and generally a long reception).
The thing is, it’s not dinner – just a little something to get your taste buds going.
We were worried about this, but our catering manager had the wise observation that it is ok if it runs out! You are serving them dinner – so they shouldn’t get full on apps.
Sure, it would be nice to have tons of apps, but it is surely not expected. A recent wedding I went too had only a few passed apps and I didn’t get to try one of them because they ran out. I said, oh well – and immediately forgot about it.
Don’t stress – what you have is fine.
Post # 9
We had 35 people at our cocktail hour. We had ordered 100 each of two kinds of apps and there were leftovers. I don’t know how many leftovers since they were cleaned up when we came in, but they brought us a huge plateful when we asked if there were any left, and brought a plate both members of the wedding party, too.
We had after-dinner snacks that didn’t get eaten much, too. We only got 60 of those (30 each of two different kinds) and there were quite a few leftover of those, too. We put some in our candy buffet take-out boxes and had them later. 🙂
Honestly, people should be smart enough to know they’re about to get dinner and not get pissy if they run out. Don’t sweat it too much.
Post # 10
@BlondeMissMolly: Yes 450, 150 each of three different kinds 🙂
“Honestly, people should be smart enough to know they’re about to get dinner and not get pissy if they run out”
This is kind of how I feel. We are all classy adults here, it’s just a snack!
At the same time I don’t want them to be devoured within ten mins.
It is going to be over 1k for what we chose including a passing fee. We could do a bit more but in no way could we afford what she is suggesting. I feel like pass hd’s are a great thing to have, if they dont really make a difference then I might as well do a self serve tray
Post # 11
@Crabbabs: True, if you don’t get one, oh well! No one is going to assume we didn’t buy enough, they will assume they just missed out.
Post # 12
I think you’re fine if your guests know for sure that dinner is next. The huge majority of wedding receptions I have been to have served dinner and a few had cocktail hour with apps before the meal. One time I went to a wedding that ended up being hors d’oeurves only, I didn’t know that and didn’t get my fill.
Post # 13
@the boss of you: Ah that makes sense, they should have told you! Yes it said on the invitation dinner and dancing and at the end of the program it says eat drink and play, we’re married! So hopefully they get it 🙂