Post # 1
Would you judge me? My (destination, Bahamas) venue doesn’t allow food at the cocktail hour (there will be drinks, alcoholic and otherwise, and live entertainment if that matters), they only allow the dinner buffet since it is outside and the cake.
The ceremony site is about a ten minute walk from the cocktail hour/reception site, so by the time guests actually make their way over there and order drinks it wouldn’t be too long before dinner anyway (served immediately after cocktail hour).
Would you judge me? I know this might be dumb but I don’t want guests to be upset, tell me it will be ok! The dinner will be a huge buffet (tons and tons of food, plus a dessert table and the wedding cake) so there won’t be a lack of food, just nothing during cocktail hour. I asked my best friend and she said she’s never heard of a wedding without at least something to pick at during cocktail hour. I’m hoping people just won’t notice? I don’t want people to think I’m cheap, the venue just doesn’t allow it!
Post # 2
MrsTywinLannister: As long as the cocktail “hour” is short, I think it will be fine. You don’t really want people having more than a couple of drinks without eating.
Post # 3
It depends what time and how long “cocktail hour” is. If I’m hungry and having to wait a while, I would definitely notice, but wouldn’t necessarily judge. Honestly, the past couple of weddings that I’ve been to with cocktail hour, I didn’t even eat the snacks they had because I wasn’t hungry and wanted to wait for the main course.
I will second that you definitely do not want people drinking too much on an empty stomach.
Post # 4
What time would cocktail hour start and will it be for the full hour?
I think it’s odd that there’s nothing to nibble on during cocktail hour, however, maybe you can just let people know by word of mouth that there won’t be food during cocktail hour, then I think it should be okay. People will know to munch on something before the ceremony.
Post # 5
MrsTywinLannister: personally I wouldn’t care at all but I would be concerned about them overdoing it on the booze during the cocktail hour with nothing to put in their stomachs to help soak it up.
Post # 6
The cermeony is 5:30-6:30, and the cocktail hour “starts” at 6:30 but like I said it is a 10-ish minute walk from the ceremony site, so I think people won’t actually get there until more like 6:45-6:50, and by the time they all have drinks it will probably be 7:15-7:20, with dinner at 7:30. I agree I don’t want people drinking too much on an empty stomach, but there isn’t anything I can do, like I said it is a venue rule for whatever reason.
Post # 7
I would definitely notice, but if there’s nothing you can do about it, there’s nothing you can do about it. People will have a cocktail, enjoy the scenery, and move on. No worries!
Post # 8
could you perhaps have little doggie bags made up by the hotel (number of guests depending of course) that you can take with you to the ceremony and then hand out to the guests as they’re leaving? failing that as dojx mentioned, just let people know so perhaps they can sneak down to the bar/restaurant before the ceremony to grab a snack..
Post # 9
I would just let my guests know that you aren’t allowed to serve food during cocktail hour. That gives them the choice to grab a bite to eat before the ceremony so that they aren’t surprised and starving during cocktail hour.
Post # 10
MrsTywinLannister: I would definitely notice and be expecting food, but I think as long as food is served right away at the reception- it won’t be an issue. Just keep in mind if youre doing introductions, speeches, etc…. dinner will probably not be served right away.
Post # 11
ScubaSiren: We can’t bring or hand out our own food unfortunately.
Post # 11
I would just spread the word around about this. I think its less of a big deal in a resort situation like this where everyone is essentially on vacation all day and can get themselves a snack before the wedding and there is beautiful scenery and new location to occupy their time while they wait for you.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn
I think it’s fine! I probably would have answered differantly until my wedding earlier this month. We had trays of local cheeses, crackers, nuts, fruits, and veggies with home made dip. I wanted to offer something while we were having pictures taken because the bar would be open. I would say about 85% of our cocktail hour food went untouched! The cater is very well known in our area and I think our guests were saving their appetites for dinner.
Post # 14
MrsTywinLannister: I’d notice, but then again its during dinner time, so I think others might as well. Best thing you can do is let people know there won’t be food. Did you know this before you booked the place?
Post # 15
If I had to be at a wedding at 5:30, I probably would not eat after normal lunch time, and by 7:30 dinner (that’s just sitting down, too; you won’t have food in front of you for at least 10 more minutes), I’d be ready to eat my arm. If I spent a pile of money on airfare and resort to end up hungry enough to eat my arm, I’d be pissed, no lie. Make sure you tell your guests that you won’t be serving food till dinner, so they can have a snack first.