Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2015 - Old Courthouse - Cleveland
I haven’t been on here since I first got engaged, but we are FINALLY looking into venues and planning our wedding for Spring 2015. Woohoo!!
So, I have enivsioned a sit-down dinner, simple elegance and chic. However, my mom has opened my eyes to a cocktail reception and I have run away with it I am afraid, haha.
I have never been to a cocktail reception, but it sounds like something I am looking for as well as my fiance. You see, we love to play games and have fun so we were thinking about having a casino-style wedding but still elegant and chic with casino games, etc.
I have read and read again the pitfalls of cocktail receptions due to the lack of seatting and food. However, I am quite convinced that I can pull off a very nice reception with heavy hors d’eourvres, food stations, open bar….hopefully the whole works. We will have sitting throughout the venue, dance floor, as well. The only difference is no table seating.
I feel this is a better alternative as I have been to weddings and the first hour is just sitting and eating while this adds an hour to mingling and getting the party started early!
What are your opinions? Would you still come? Also, when is the best time to get started?
Post # 3
I think you can have a cocktail wedding at anytime as long as their is enough food.
I went to a cocktail wedding a few years ago and it was over dinner time and hardly any food. People either left early or got really drunk. We ended up sneeking off to Macca’s and coming back after we relised that their would be no more food on offer. Please don’t make this mistake
Post # 4
@flutiecutie: Honestly, these aren’t my favorites. First, your guests are traveling for the wedding, it is polite to serve them a meal. Many will be offended that they blocked off a day for you, spend $XXX to get there, and bought you a gift and you didn’t even feed them (but splurged on games). It doesn’t matter how heavy the apps are, it wouldn’t go over with my family.
The other thing is the setting it creates. It makes it hard to get your guests attention to have the first dance, speeches, and traditional wedding things. It may be a great party, but it won’t feel like a wedding.
Finally, people tend to leave earlier. They want a meal, they are sick of socializing, and what not. At least at the two cocktail party weddings I went to, the party never got started and it was fun socializing for an hour or two, but after that point people left.
Post # 5
@Pollywog: a cocktail party doesn’t mean that you don’t feed them!
for me, i’d rather go to a cocktail style reception with an open bar that endure another “proteine+starch+veggie” mediocre seat down ANY DAY.
Post # 6
@bebero: I wasn’t meaning that at all! The weddings I go to all have very heavy apps. All weddings do– passed and stations. Then there is a normal dinner after cocktail hour. Guests purposely don’t over eat during the cocktail hour because they know food is coming (so there is lots of wasted food, which I hate). At the cocktail party weddings I have been to, there are a ton of apps. They are great. But people don’t realize they aren’t getting a meal, so they don’t eat very much (yes, it is on the invite and you totally could make an amazing meal out of the apps). Then the stations get shut down and they get hungry.
My opinion is it is excellent in theory, but in the two weddings I have gone to that have done this, it doesn’t go over so well. Instead of having cocktail hour, hour to eat, 3 hours of dancing, the vibe is more like cocktail hour all night long. People didn’t dance as much and generally weren’t as much fun as when they had a full meal.