Post # 1
Ok, so it looks like we will have 110 seats with 125ish people coming. We didn’t send out invites yet so not really sure about that total. But as you see, we don’t have enough seats for everyone. I really want a party for my reception. I don’t know if I should tell my guests that it will be a cocktail party considering we do have a lot of seating. We might not have alcohol. My mom just got married yesterday, and not many people were sitting down. She keeps telling me not to worry and not to change my venue that we love. It is a small lounge overlooking the Philadelphia skyline. As far as food goes, we are doing minis on small plates buffet style with serves walking around. I plan on ordering enough food for each person to equate to a full plate. And our reception is from 2-6. I’m not sure if that falls into the cocktail category or not. If so, what are all the dos and don’ts that you ladies think according to your past experiences? Thanks!
Post # 3
I planned a cocktail style reception for my wedding which is today. I can update n how it went if you want to look for my recaps in the near future. Your timing is more of just a light reception…cocktail receptions are usually in the evening and especially if you are having no alchohol, it might be tough to say it is a cocktail reception.
I love the idea of an afternoon reception but try the following:
Cake and finger foold reception to follow
Light fare reception to follow
Because your reception falls into the dinner hour, I would recommend a standing buffet of hot food…stuff they can carry around and nibble on like hot spring rolls, sliders, chicken, beef appies but hot, and cold buffet as well.
The best cocktail receptions offer seating for those with tired legs or groups of chairs, sofas etc, for people to lounge and relax, also entertainment or multiple activities for the guests is also nice.
I went to an afternoon cocktail wedding where they turned up the dance music then turned it off promptly at 5..it was kinda weird gearing up to get down then you realize it is only five pm…
However, I am completely not asit down, formal meal for a wedding kind of girl, so I am biased on the wedding cocktail thing 🙂
Post # 4
@fivemonthsnotice: congratulations!!! And thank you so much. I really do appreciate it. I hope you have a wonderful wedding and reception. And I will definitely look for your recap.
Post # 5
@fivemonthsnotice: I will also be interested to hear how your cocktail style reception went! I’m getting married in New Orleans where this is the traditional reception style. I’m excited because, like you, I don’t care for long, drawn out sit down meals at weddings and prefer to be up and about mingling, but I’m a little nervous that not everyone will “get it”!
Post # 6
First, if you haven’t sent out invites yet, I can tell you it is very unlikely that all 125 people you invite will attend! So I wouldn’t sweat it too much.
I had a cocktail style reception at my mom’s home, and it was great. We had a mix of high and low tables with chairs, with couches around the edge of the room. We had passed and stationary apps, as well as food stations. People chatted and mingled and moved from one table to another.
Make sure that the staff will clear the tables of dirty dishes promptly, so that people feel ok about moving around from one table to another.
I definitely think you should have alcohol, unless you have moral objections to it. A cocktail party without cocktails isn’t that much fun.