(Closed) Cohabitation

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think all of those reasons are true.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we were both raised in christian homes and have been together for almost 6 years and lived together for 5 years. It was a money choice for the most part. we were having sex before we moved in together so that wasnt really and issue. we moved in together after 9 months because well to be honest we were young and stupid haha. but looking back we have come so far together we wouldnt really change anything.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

None of the above for us. I work as a teacher and as such, I am continually getting colds! My mum was going through chemotherapy and I was not able to stay at home and jeopardise her wellness. At the same time, FI was looking to move out of his living situation so it just made sense for us to move in together. He’s my best friend as well as my FI so it works well for me Laughing I’m well aware our situation is a little more on the unusual side though!

Post # 6
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Newbee

From a Catholic-Christian perspective, cohabitation is not approved of by the Church even though it’s pretty common in society now. It’s not the physical living together that’s the “problem,” it’s the implication that the couple is having premarital sex or that they are putting themselves in the temptation to do so by sleeping in the same house/bed every night. However, if an unmarried couple really is in a bad financial state and cohabiting is the most affordable thing to do, it’s permissable, assuming they aren’t sleeping together. Hope I didn’t offend anyone, and hope I answered your question from a particular branch of Christianity’s perspective! 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We’re not cohabitating or sleeping together before marriage, and we’re both Christians. Statistically speaking, couples who cohabitate prior to marriage are far more likely to get divorced later on: 

http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/series/sr_23/sr23_022.pdf

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper

We didn’t live together, so I can’t give a reason from personal experience. I respect other people’s life choices as long as they respect mine, though! 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am a Christian and I know what the Bible says, but we did indeed live together before marriage. We were making a move across the state (about 5 hours) because I landed my dream teaching job, and SO was coming with me. It seemed really silly for us to each have an apartment just for the sake of saying we didn’t live together before marriage. We did have sex before marriage, as well, which I also do realize contradicts biblical principles, but we did it anyways.

Please don’t tell me I’m a sinner; I am just being honest with everyone. I fully respect every couple’s personal decision as to what’s right for them.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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my fi and I are living together before.marriage but we are not having sex. We sleep in the same bed, we live in the same house, we have devotion together every morning.

It might not be the ideal situation but it is right for us….and yes we are super excited for our wedding night!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My fiance and I have been living together for 2 years and it was a financial/practical decision. We are both medical students and if we didn’t live together I wouldn’t see him at all! I honestly believe that our relationship would not have survived if we didn’t move in and it really made us realize that we could do it for the long haul! We are also both Catholic but admittedly aren’t “practicing” Catholics, however we are having a Catholic wedding; mostly to appease our families. 

My parents are divorced and didn’t have sex or live together until they got married, so I thought I would do the opposite, haha. Everybody’s case is individual and unique. “Statistics” can basically be found for any scenario you want (I know from being in the medical field). Everyone is basically going to defend their own choice when it comes down to it.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MrsStrawberry24: That’s pretty cool that you guys have so much self-discipline. 🙂

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

more than anything, our decision to wait until marriage for sex is why we don’t cohabitate. the pressure and desire is bad enough without living together! the financial potential of just one household is oh-so-tempting as well, though. so so tempting. these days, it seems that waiting is not as common. without some firm belief or thought that there’s a reward, making that sacrifice may feel a bit irrational to some Christians. maybe?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@UK Bride: this is because couples who do not believe in cohabitating do not believe in divorce.

I do believe in cohabitating before marriage, and of course, respect those who believe otherwise!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MlleBrielle: Agreed. I know more probably plays into it, but my sister is extremely unhappy with her husband, but I think she will stay with him for life because she firmly believes divorce is a huge sin. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@UK Bride: Do you happen to know the page number for that part of the study?  I flipped through pretty quickly and didn’t see it. 

Nevermind  I did some more looking at found it! 

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