Post # 1
I love my Fiance. I do. Very much. He’s my favorite person in the world and I’m thrilled that his is the first face I see in the morning and the last I see at night. He’s the light of my life, the wind beneath my wings, etc., etc.
His stuff is driving me insane.
Some context: We share a wee studio apartment in NYC. Originally it was just me, and there was, if not plenty, then certainly enough room to accomodate my furniture, books, etc. Then he moved in and we added HIS books, a chair and his clothes. A bit cozy (read: cramped) but not a big deal. The trouble is his Manly Technology. His giant, black-cased, space-eating technology.
Where once I had floor I now have a gigormous flat screen television. The previously pristine desk has been colonized by his NORAD-style computer with accompanying epic monitor. (For panoramic alien-shooting fun!) The pantry now stores two subwoofers next to the ketchup and his second laptop is under the chair.
I’m tryiing as hard as I can to be understanding and non-territorial, but I still find that I’m having trouble accepting this particular change. It’s a small and slightly odd thing to be upset about – it’s not like I don’t benefit from the flatscreen – but I can’t seem to get over this feeling of, ‘GAAAAH whatisallofthisrandomelectronicclaptrapdoinginmyspaaaaace?!
Post # 3
Awe I am sorry – I completely understand! We just went out to buy a TV and the 46″ was only so much more than the 40″ and even though we decided on the 40″ when he saw the price of the 46″ his eyes lit up and I knew I was in for a debate. I eventually got him to agree on the 40″ and when we got it home he was so glad because the 46″ would have been to big. Um YA Thats what I was saying the WHOLE time!
Can you hide the cpu under the desk so just the monitor and keyboard sits on the top? Can you reorganize the furniture in the room to make the TV less obtrusive?
Guys and technology, eh? What can we do?
Post # 4
I don’t think its odd. I know what its like to love someone so dearly that you can’t live without them but then again you consider the actually “living” together part and you’re like, “oh crap”. Lol. I’ve been living with my Fiance for 5 years and I still find things he’s been doing from the start to be super annoying at times. For instance. He feels a need to drape sock around as if they’re decorations. Or that he puts his mail in all kinds of strange places (which leads to him forgetting to pay a bill). I eventually explode but I try to let it out in a composed manner. That’s all you really can do, is communicate that this stuff is driving you nuts. But, make sure you know what it is you’d like to see changed and be specific so he doesn’t have to guess. Like create some kind of organized storage space for him to put his stuff.