Post # 1
I live in a small town. I have a few close friends here but that’s it. I grew up here but moved in 98 when I was in tge sixth grade. I have lived all over the US since.
I keep getting these friend requests that seems fishy on facebook. They all say that they are from my hometown but I have NO clue who they are, nor does my DH. These requests come from someone who only has one picture and 10 or less friends. Random names of the people and when it got strange was when I looked at one request. They had my childhood friends as well as my cousin who lives on the other side of the country who has never been to my hometown.
I don’t know who these people are at all. One girls facebook says she works at a place I worked at three years ago, but they closed down three years ago after I quit so that makes no sense. Not to mention I never saw her there.
I have everything on my Facebook private. A couple of my exes (one from 12 years ago and one from six years ago) kept bugging me so I blocked them and set it all to private. Not to mentipn some of DHs exs are psycho and my brother as well who I blocked because he caused a crap ton of problems for me. It seems like these constant random requests are from someone trying to spy on me. My DH doesn’t get these requests .
Does this kind of thing happen to others or do I really have a facebook stalker? I’m thinking about sending them all messages saying “who the heck are you?” But I don’t want to sound rude.
Post # 2
Sounds like your brother as who ever it knows past stuff about you which they are using to try and hook you in but the cousin name says it’s your brother to me! I wouldn’t engage I’d ignore. Maybe try to reach out to your brother but not on Facebook.
Post # 4
Mojito77: I didn’t even consider it being him until writing this post. It sounds harsh but I cut him out of my life for good before my wedding. To me I only have one brother. I don’t want to go into details as to why but he really screwed me up as a kid and when confronting him about it he tried to make it my fault and blame me, never apologized or anything so I cut the ties with him and haven’t looked back. It was good for mw to do that and I have no plans of ever including him in my life again. Sounds drastic but I am justified.
It probably is him, your guess gas me pretty convinced
Post # 5
As you are currently planning your wedding maybe he has regret and is trying to have a nose at you and your plans. Maybe so he can see you in pics of you at the wedding. Its a big thing to be cut out of. It’s probably not sinister but I wouldn’t engage just monitor it, you could report it to FB.
Post # 6
Mrslovebug: sounds weird, that’s for sure! I’d be blocking each one as they come through. Whoever it is will get tired of making new profiles and trying to add you as a friend. You can also make yourself harder to find in the settings.
SO discovered there was a profile of him on FB, same name, same occupation at his opposition, pictures of his old car (prized possession), and what’s worse, his extremely estranged birth mother on his friend’s list. That bothers me the most, that she would even think he would add her as a friend. I know enough about her that I’d like to punch her in the throat. It was scary! We don’t know who did it, or why. We reported the page for impersonation and it was shut down. Weird stuff happens on FB, we’d just never seen that side of it before.
Post # 7
Mrslovebug: I had something like this happen once. A woman with very few friends added me as well as almost everyone who went to my VERY SMALL high school. She claimed that she had graduated from there the year before, but in a high school with less than 50 people we knew that wasn’t true. We all assumed it was an undercover cop.
Post # 8
I usually tend to think of bot or similar type of scams first. I know lately quite a few people who have had impersonation accounts, and I don’t think it was anything personal, just the updated Nigerian lottery type of thing.
Post # 9
Mrslovebug: you can block your name from coming up when people who aren’t your friends search for you – if you’re getting really concerned id give that a go!
Post # 10
Mrslovebug: This exact thing happened to me once, actually. Except that the person wrote me, digging for information about me under the guise of someone I knew. DH and I did some quick research, and figured out it was one of his manipulative ex girlfriends. Someone he dated about two years prior to dating me. I guess she was just curious about this new woman in DH’s life? I don’t know.
I finally replied and called her out on it… Albeit in a very calm and mature manner. I’m sure she was pretty embarrassed, as the fake profile vanished pretty quickly after that (within about five minutes of her reading my reply). Neither one of us has heard from her since.
I would maybe reply to one of the request, indicating that you are well aware that you don’t know this person and think it’s a scam. Hopefully they take a hint and stop, but if not, just continue blocking.