Coincidence or does he know?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

ahhh yikes. Well IF you’re going to admit it. Do it ASAP. Don’t let it linger any longer.

Is there ANY chance he knows the guy, or one of his friends knows him..?? 

Post # 4
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ErikaPurple:  It’s prob a bit too much of a coincidence, unless you have friends in common that your ex could have leaked the tape too, but i really think it would be a good idea to fess up and tell him, if he does know, or did find out somehow it would be a billion times worse that you lied to him rather than be honest.

Post # 5
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

tell him. get it out there, but probably not when he’s drunk.

On the other hand, maybe he was questionning you because he wanted to make one (drunk men = silly men ahahaha)

Post # 6
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32 posts
Newbee

@ErikaPurple:  Tell him the truth as soon as possible. The last thing you want to do is to have him see the tape and realize that you lied to his face about it. Then he’ll start to wonder what else you’re lying about, leading to HUGE trust issues. 

This could very easily end your relationship. Don’t let that happen, be proactive and take control of the situation.

Post # 7
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

It was probably just a coincidence but like others have said you should be honest about it. 

Post # 8
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3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ErikaPurple:  I agree that if you’re ever going to admit it now is the time. Because if you deny it and he finds out later you’re screwed. But honestly, if he is the man for you then you have to be honest with him, warts and all. If you are the one for him he will get over it.

Post # 9
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2766 posts
Sugar bee

Oh, honey. Sex tapes and the like are common talk amongst men (and women). He and the boys prob got to talking about how hot homemade porn is and he wanted to ask if you’ve done it. If you really think he should know, tell him. If he has weird jealousy issues, I guess maybe don’t, but it’s not like he has any right being upset about something you did before you met him.

Post # 10
Member
32 posts
Newbee

So after a night out with the guys, he comes home, gets ready for bed and then out of the blue asks if you’ve ever made a sex tape? 

Alarm bells should be going off. This is not a coincidence.

This is not a normal, random, out of the blue kind of question. 

Post # 11
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1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Tell the truth, including the part where you were so surprised at the question you automatically denied making a tape.

Chances are, though, he was just wanting to make a sex tape with you.

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