(Closed) Cold Feet

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do?
    Stick to your dress, Pronovias! It's stupid and too costly to change your mind now. : (12 votes)
    8 %
    I wish you chose Justin Alexander too... : (28 votes)
    19 %
    Regardless of money spent, you made the right choice in Megan... : (5 votes)
    3 %
    I think it will be worth it to get Justin, just sell off everything else. : (101 votes)
    69 %
    Find a way to convince your FI to help you choose the right one, even if he doesn't want too : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Go with your gut. You loved that first dress and now you have the opportunity to get it. Normally I’m all for “What feeling did you get when you tried on the 2nd dress” but if money was the only thing standing in your way then and it isn’t now then get it. Sell your second dress for some extra cash and do it. You’ll feel great, you’ll be happy and you won’t second guess your whole wedding day.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would buy the dress you love (Mostly bc i love it and <3 it as well)

     

    Im not one for being fervilous like that and i dont always agree with buying another dress (i mean i have a 10.00 pair of shoes and it took me a week debating wether or not i should but the 100.00 pair of shoes that I LOVE) but obviously from your post this is what your heart is set on…and its 1600.00!! you can afford that!

     

    I say do it! 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Aww hun I’m so sorry your having such difficulty with this! Usually in situations like this I say keep your original dress, but it really seems to me that you will regret not having worn the justin dress loooooooong after your wedding. If you think you can swing it buy the dress of your dreams, it doesn’t seem crazy impractical and there are definite signs that this is the right choice for you. You can always try to sell your current dress and after your wedding you could try to sell the justin dress again? It seems like your heart will really be broken if you don’t get the Justin dress. It doesn’t matter how beautiful the other dress is if you are constantly thinking of the other dress. I know its 3.5 hours away but could you possibly go try it on again? Maybe that can make you have a realization moment of yes this is the dress or no the other one is better? Good luck! *hugs*

    Post # 6
    Member
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    Wow that Justin Alexander dress is beautiful….I love it!  Could you sell the other dress and recoup some of the costs?

    EDIT: Just saying, the JA dress is the kind of dress that is so classic that you’d want to pass it on to your daughter/grand daughter…It’s so beautiful.

    Post # 8
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    2077 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I do think you look stunning in the dress you bought, but if you don’t like it and are disappointed, sell it and buy the used JA.  You look beautiful in both dresses, but I especially love the JA on you.  It fits your venue, your theme, and what you and your FI invisioned.  If I were in your situation and was about to fall into money, I would spend a bit of it on something you really want before putting it toward something practical…if that’s a feasable option for you.  I’m not sure how big of a burden it would be for you to not use it all to pay off debts, but I think you should considder getting the JA.  It’s less expensive than you origionally were quoted and it looks like it was made for you.

    I do think that you look great in the Megan as well.  But for your own sanity, try to get the JA!  Good luck.

    Post # 9
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    WOW.  It looks like you have the figure to wear anything, but that first dress is SO flattering and beautiful.  Your waist looks super-tiny, the neckline… everything! 

    You seem pretty attached to it, too, and since you are getting a bit extra money, I really think you should buy it and try to sell the other one.

    Post # 10
    Member
    340 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Get the dress you love. It’s worth it.

    Post # 11
    Member
    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wow, I couldn’t even vote in your poll, because I have no idea what I would do in your position! Poor you! I really feel for you!

    Ok, given you have the disposable funds right now, probably what I would do is buy the Justin. Keep both dresses until your wedding, which isn’t too far off, and actually decide nearer the time which you want to wear. Then, after the wedding, when the stress is off, sell whichever dress you didn’t wear. 

    Because I can’t put a pin between those dresses, they are both beautiful and stylish in their own way, and both look amazing on you. 

    I don’t think you’d have any trouble selling either dress (plus appropriate veil and unworn accessories) after the wedding. You seem so stressed about this, I think it’s worth tying up the extra cash for a few months to relieve the pressure!

    Post # 12
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    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The Justin is YOUR dress – I can tell in the way you talk about her and the way you look in her – OMG you look STUNNING! You look gorgeous in the other dress too but in the Justin my jaw dropped!

    If you can afford it I think you will regret NOT getting the Justin!

    Keep us posted on your decision!

    Post # 13
    Member
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee

    if you can afford it, get the JA dress! you only get married once 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I always thought that the Justin was your dress, KLP. I remember you posting about it all crazy excited that you got to go try it on. You obsessed about that dress. I think you should go ahead and buy it. It’s obvious that you love that dress and that it’s the one you really want. I agree with Future MRs Martin, I think you will regret not getting it. The Megan is a popular dress. I think you will be able to sell it no problem.

    Post # 15
    Member
    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    The Justin Alexander is phenomenal! I don’t pull that word out often…especially to describe clothing/dresses.

    Post # 16
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    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I normally am really against telling someone to buy a second dress, but I have to agree with the other girls here, the JA is just so beautiful! It compliments you in every way, its absolutely gorgeous. GO FOR IT!!

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