(Closed) COLD FEET!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
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  • Wedding: May 2011

First, reading your post makes me sad inside.  I can only imagine what you are feeling right now. 

First of all you are right to speak up. Not only are you standing up for yourself, but your mother as well.  From what I read, the way they treat your mother is terrible.  Don’t they understand that she part of who you are and that treating your mother that way is like treating you the same way? They obvious have no respect for you, your mother or both your feelings. 

I think the way your fiance behaves is awful.  So only he can voice his opinion and you can’t express yourself because “HE” doesn’t want to hear it? He should be sticking up for you.

You are right to feel the way you are feeling.  You need to decide, which in your note you already have.  Your mother is important to you and your fiance needs to be supportive of your choice.  My fiance and I agreed we would take care of our parents in old age and make sure they have the best care possible.  Do not let your fiance tell you otherwise.  He’s wrong.

And for the record, you do not need a therapist, don’t even think that. If you feel like you need couple’s counseling, that’ fine.  But you have a gut feeling that truly tells you to not marry this guy, only you can know that.  Yes, I can tell you feel bad about people have already booked flights, but don’t suffer. 

You know your mother is important to you, don’t let someone make you choose like that.  You shouldn’t have to.  There’s plenty of people out there that will tell you the same.

Hang in there, stay strong and do what you feel and think is right for yourself.

 

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