Post # 1
i just became a memeber, we got engaged back in november and are planing our wedding for june 2012, it’s so far away because we are getting married in europe and our guest (as well as ourselves) needed some time plan time off, finacials and what not.
anyway i was just wondering if others out there were having some cold feet? i just realize that lately i’m not so sure if i still want to get married. it’s not my fiance, he’s amazing, it’s just i’m not sure i really want that married” life you know? he was married before and has a young child, i’ve grown very close to his child and everyone seems to get along (well maybe except for his ex…but that’s story’s as old as time) point is i get a glimpse of what married family life is like, and i don’t think i can do it. we live together and have his son half the time, and i just realized that i’m not sure i want that life forever. i’ve wanted children of my own, and he wants more as well… but even that i’m not sure i want anymore.
it’s hard to talk about to people close to me because, as i’m sure you’ve noticed, when wedding planning, people don’t want to hear anything negtive and uncertain about your relationship…anyway i was just wondering if anyone wanted to share their thoughts on this…and also if anyone has any advice, i would gladly receive it.
Post # 3
I think it’s normal for everyone to get cold feet at least once within the time of their engagement. I have experienced it myself. We’re getting married this December, so with the wedding only 5 months away it’s getting really stressful, I’m not getting the support that I thought I would, and so I have gotten the feeling of not wanting to get married and just putting it off or just going and doing it somewhere else like Vegas. I think that its not only normal, but getting cold feet is inevitable especially when the pressure is on and the planning gets more in depth and all the stress comes pouring in.
Just because I’ve gotten cold feet, doesnt mean that I dont want to be with my FI, its just very stressful planning the wedding all by myself with no help, plus the stress of going to college, and the fighting that all the stress causes between me and my FI. So what I can say is to not think about it too much and it will pass. Of course the feeling isnt a good one, but for me it comes and goes and I know that it wont stay. So just hang in there and dont give it too much thought, the feelings will pass and your happiness will prevail over all 🙂
Post # 4
Read this post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-want-everyone-to-get-real-for-a-minuteseriously
It helped me so much to hear about other people that were thinking “Am I crazy for going through with this?” once in a while.
I’ve found that it really helps me when my FI and I are honest about how we are feeling and our insecurities with each other. Rather than telling others about it.