(Closed) Cold Feet???

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You did not say how long you have been dating your FI or how old you are. You have some time to process all of this before your wedding which is a good thing. It could be just cold feet it could be doubts that your FI is who you want forever with…time will tell.

I don’t have those feelings about getting married. I am 100% ready to date only my FI for the rest of my life and other men pale in comparison.

Post # 4
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3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Cold feet. I would say read a relationship book. I’m reading 5 Love Languages right now and its making me appreciate what i have alot more then i used to. 

Post # 5
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1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s tough. I’m slightly confused though, since you say your wedding is soon but your date says June 2013? Or is that part of the incognito?

For myself, I’m 34 now and I could NEVER have married in my 20’s. I didn’t want to settle down. I had lots of lovers in long term relationships ( and some short term too, Lol!)

But now, I am completely ready to be with one person and I have found my perfect match. So I don’t have any doubts or fears. I have never been happily monogamous before, so it’s a big deal for me.

I can sense that you want to feel the same inner peace, and you recognize your thoughts are irrational. Make sure you are sure about this guy. Maybe you DO need to live, play and explore more, i don’t know. Cold feet is sometimes just stage fright. But if you are going into this thinking, well we’ll see how it works out- I can ask for a divorce if I’m unhappy in a few years, then you need to do some serious soul searching.

Relationship ambivalence is hard. I’ve been there myself many times. Wishing you the best.

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