(Closed) cold feet

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are feeling this way.

Have you tried talking to your FI about it?

Something you might do is make a list of pros and cons of being in this relationship. Better to know now, if this is what you want than to go on with it with doubts.

Post # 4
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Did anything in particular trigger these feelings, or has it been growing on you, or did it literally hop up out of nowhere?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ive been there….I get waves of feeling like that, but then it passes.  The bottom line, for me, is I said yes for a reason. I know he is the best possible partner for me. Does that mean we dont have problems, or I dont sometimes think there could be something better? No…but reality is that he truly is the best for me. And I imagine you feel the same about your guy. Cold feet is natural, so dont panic. Take a breath and try not to think about if for a while (a day or so) and then maybe think about it once you’ve calmed down and figure out, if you can, what made you feeling that way originally.

Seriously, dont panic. Even if in the end you decide he isnt the one for you, its ok….life goes on. Nothing is permanent and not undo-able.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Being scared it TOTALLY NORMAL, marriage is a serious commitment. The question is do you get freaked out by the “forever” part or “forever with HIM” part?

I get a little panicked when I think about always having to consider someone else in my decisions, etc. but then when I think about my FI I get excited that it’s him I get to be with. Does he make me crazy sometimes? Absolutely. But I also know that we are in this together and he’s the only one I’d want to have by my side.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Being scared is one thing. But to hold it in is another. You really need to open up to your FI about it. Because that is the only way you will figure out if it is cold feet or something more.

Post # 10
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829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I use to get like that. In the end he IS THE ONE for me 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

i am glad you’re feeling better!

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