Post # 1
Ok so heres the deal…
My fiance and I are very much in love, everything’s perfect, I couldn’t ask for a better man,….sure we have our stresses in our relationship (he has 2 kids and she’s not the most civil person) but we deal and we have never let anything bear on our relationship. We planned our engagement and I couldn’t wait for the moment that everything was official. Now that he has proposed, ring on finger and families elated… I’m starting to feel very…I don’t know if nervous is the right word. I’m not sure if its cold feet or just the pressure and stress of planning a wedding. But I am constantly questioning if this is going to work out, is the wedding really going to happen. I haven’t expressed this to him in fear of hurting his feelings. I do not doubt us being together or have ever questioned if this is the person I am supposed to be with so I’m just not sure where all this anxiety is coming from. Is anyone else feeling this way?
Post # 3
I have not felt exactly this way but I think it’s perfectly normal to feel a bit nervous after getting engaged. It’s a huge committment and involves a lot of planning. I think you should talk to him openly and just express that you’ve been feeling a little out of sorts. I bet he’s been feeling the same way. I’m sure everything will work out and it’s just the pressure of everything that is getting to you but it never hurts to talk it out.
Post # 4
This is so normal! Check out Sheryl Paul’s work – The Conscious Bride – and also her website as this is her area of expertise http://www.conscioustransitions.com
Wishing you all the best!
Post # 5
I think it’s normal to be a little anxious about everything, because it’s a huge commitment. You just have to take a step back and think about what issues you guys have had and might have and decide if you can get through them. Is there someone who could make you happier? Is there anything you would change about your fiancé? It’s hard to imagine the future and you don’t know what’s going to happen, but if you’ve been through problems before and gotten through them, you can be sure that you can get through anything. It’s normal to feel some doubts when you’re faced with something and permanent and big as marriage, but you’ll get through it. 🙂 Acknowledge your feelings, but if they aren’t grounded in a real problem, then try to let them go.
Post # 6
Planning a wedding is a huge undertaking, and very very stressful. It sounds like you’re sure about the Mr. so I’d say you’re just feeling the planning-stress! There have been about 100 times I’ve said “why are we doing this wedding?!?” but I’m happy we are. You two will be fine, just remember that stress does crazy things to people, and that at the end of the day it’s the marriage that matters, not the wedding.