I am so over these scientific studies!
Not everything in life can be explained. Somethings just are.
Because we are human, because there are over 6 Billion of us on the planet… and each of us different from one another. Because humans are unpredictable, and we can and do make mistakes from time to time.
I truly believe that ALL Couples have some moments of self-doubt and examination before they get married… to not have them would be scary in itself.
Certainly the more you have, then the more that there would be RED FLAGS
BUT, as an Encore Bride, I know first hand that Marriage can be tough
We hang all our hopes, dreams and LOVE ON ONE PERSON FOREVER…
That is tons of pressure
Particularly so, that for most of us this something we choose to do when we are quite young (in our 20s and 30s) and in many ways haven’t fully formed ourselves.
People change… situations change. Life is like that…
What makes one marriage more successful than another I believe is the commitment that two people have to “working things out”
BUT even that isn’t always enough. As they say… SH!T Happens !!
With the current Divorce Rates at aprox 40%… and here in Canada where almost 50% of all individuals are choosing to not marry (Live Alone – Date – Live Common Law) being married and staying married is statistically even harder… lets face it “the odds” are not stacked in anyone’s favour if they want to be married, or remain married.
I think all that one can be certain of is THIS MOMENT IN TIME
And go from there.
Divorce isn’t great by any means (this coming from someone who had a HORRIFIC Divorce)…
BUT it isn’t the end of the world either. Life can and does go on afterwards.
You have to make the best of what cards you’ve been given in life. Don’t like the cards… draw some more, quit the game, or give up gambling. Lol.