Post # 1
Okay, am I alone here?
We get married in THREE days. I am stuck at work out of town until tomorrow night. I don’t know if it’s the stress of the wedding, emotions running high, or if I truly should be angry, but I am so fed up with my fiance today. He isn’t helping make these last days easy at all.
His chores today were to get last minute stuff from the store, which he did, and to call my mom and ask her if there were any last minute things he could do to help her. Instead, he is at home spending the night with his MOM… he didn’t even bother to ask my mom if she needed help, AND he was over at HIS mom’s house yesterday doing home improvements for her!
I truly feel today like this is all a big mistake.
Does everyone go through this?
Post # 3
I go through this every few weeks with my FI. I get really stressed at work, and then come home to a filthy house and my FI scouring craigslist for vehicles that we don’t even have money to buy. What’s the point?
But i still love him, and even if I came home and found coffee cups in the bathroom and the trash overflowing every day, I wouldn’t want to wake up the next day without him.
I think we all have frustrating days, and sometimes we get so stressed that we rethink our choices. Being that you’re only days away, and very busy, I would think it was just the stress.
So even if he doesn’t get everything on the to-do list done, do you still love him? Even if he ditches plans to help his mom out with home improvement, can you swallow life without him? Those are some very serious questions, but I ask myself pretty often.
Post # 4
I think it’s natural in the days leading up to the wedding to look at your fiance doing something that would normally mildly irritate you and wonder "Can I seriously live with this forever?" Honestly, though, this doesn’t seem like a "call off the wedding" situation. He’s going to go to his mom before he goes to your mom. Who knows? Maybe his mom was nagging him to death about those home improvements, and he just wanted her off his back.
Post # 5
You’re totally stressed out. Your reactions are not exactly super-rational at this juncture. That’s okay!!
I think it’s sort of sweet he was over at his mom’s house. He’s taking care of her. I know you must be thinking, those home repairs can wait! But that’s not the point. He’s doing that probably to feel an emotional connection to her. Boys get jittery and sentimental about getting married too. It’s probably making him feel good to be doing these things for his mother to reaffirm their connection right as he’s about to make his committment to you. Don’t worry, it’s all going to be fine.
Post # 6
I think this seems like a totally normal reaction to a stressful situation. Honestly, I know lots of couples who had disagreements/stress during the days leading up to the wedding. Your emotions are running high and you’re looking at every little detail with a critical eye. I know there were times where I felt like my husband wasn’t helping me when I needed it. Honestly, a lot of the time, I think he just didn’t know what needed to be done, or how to help me. I found that giving him specific requests helped keep him involved and kept my stress level down.
Take a deep breathe and relax. It’s going to be great!