Post # 1
I have been with my Fiance for 3 plus years now. He is amazing, does all the right things, takes care of me, loves me with all his heart and I love him the same no question. Getting engaged was wonderful and the beginnings of wedding planning was fun. The Fiance lives in VA, while I am planning the wedding in IL, it sucks not having him here. All of a sudden I am feeling so nervous and scared. All the plans are set all we have to do is send the invitations. After the wedding I will be moving to VA, I am from IL. His job takes him around the world too. I feel as though I am scared about this more than anything, and it makes me freak out about the wedding day, because my life is going to change so much. Don’t get me wrong I am excited about moving, but crazy nervous at the same time. I have talked to him about it and that makes me feel better, but I am still freaking out. Please help, with advice or how to just can I get rid of my nervousness??
Post # 3
@kam2416: I am moving away from my family due to my FH’s job too. I am scared and nervous, but I am trying to look at this like an adventure. There are alot of opportunities out there for me too so I am going to focus on that. Plus, being in a LDR sucks, so it is exciting to have that end too.
Post # 4
I wouldnt even call ths cold feet! I think you are just overwhelmed a bit. Take each step one at a time.
You know you want to marry him. You also know you want to move. Focus on one, forgetting abouy the move untill neccessary.
I think you may be getting nervous because you cant image yourself there, and your not sure how your left will change. Maybe take a quiet minute to yourself and image what it will be like to move there. See yourself moving, and doingw hatever you plan on doing there. Show yoursel fthat there is nothing bad or scary waiting there for you, only your loving husband!
Post # 5
It definitely sounds like you are overwhelmed! Which makes sense! That is a lot of change and transition happening at once!
Is there anyway you can make the move more exciting than nervewracking? Have you been to visit? Or can you do some research about stores or restaurants you will be excited to try? Maybe try and make some ‘bee friends in the area who can give you advice or possibly meet up when you move?
Post # 6
Moving is scary, I can totally understand what’s going on.
Maybe look into some local stuff to get you situated. Know where the closest grocery store, library & drug store are. Join the local gym. Look at restaruants, look into local hobbies. Maybe the next time you visit, get out and meet people. I think that getting more comfortable with the area will help.
You will make friends, no worries. You won’t be alone when he is gone. There are always neighbors, his friends, their significant others..
It will be a big change, but it will be a great one, and something that you two get to go thru together! Everything will work out!
Post # 7
Is he in the Navy? Where in VA will you be moving too? Have you been here yet?
Depending on where in VA I can def. try and help you feel better about coming here 😉
Post # 8
I went through this too. My now-DH and I were long distance and I moved across state lines to be with him after the wedding. The wedding symbolized two huge life changes for me! I think if you aren’t feeling overwhelmed, then you aren’t taking it seriously! I was also dealing with a lot of other stress in my life which contributed to my feelings of nerves/cold feet about the wedding. However, when I thought about it in simple terms – Do I want to be with DH? – there was never any doubt in my mind. Sure, sometimes I was doubtful about moving, or even about the institution of marriage, but I always knew that he was right for me and that we could make anything work. That’s what got me through.
I am happy to tell you that although the morning of the wedding I was a bundle of nerves (mostly because of all the people!) once I said my vows to my husband, it was like a weight was lifted. Even though the move wasn’t easy and we’ve had some rough moments, we are so happy to be married!