Post # 1
Well my fiance and I have been engaged for 8 months now and we are fighting more and more. Sure somethings I would let go under the carpet, but it seems like the little things are just piling on.
Now when I bring things up, he signs and pouts and rolls his eyes. Instead of my fiance speaking to me about it (like i ask) he turns and acts like a 3 year old and pretends like nothing is wrong. I want to talk about it and squash it but feel like he just doesnt care…
How can I tell if it is just my having cold feet versus a serious relationship problem?
Post # 3
What sorts of things are you fighting over? It’s really common for couples to fight during wedding planning over wedding details, budgets, etc. But if you are having fights over more serious things, and he is refusing to talk and instead acting like a 2 year old, then that is a different story. These types of issues are the exact type of thing that should be dealt with prior to getting married. Have you considered pre-marital counselling? Consider all the marriage prepwork the ground for a successful marriage. And communication is key to a successful marriage.
Could you list some examples of things you are fighting over, if you are comfortable doing so?
Post # 4
During this wedding planning process we have fought alot too at the beginning, but now we are 6 wks away and have such a stronger bond between us. I’ve met alot of people lately that are married for more than 20 years and I ask them what tips they have for me and all of them basically said the same thing ‘always communicate and dont sweat the small stuff’. Me and FI are living up to that now and this morning almost fought again over misunderstanding and we didnt sweat it, reminded each other we shouldnt and moved on from it. Being a baby or pouting is poor communication skills and FI use to do that all the time but you need to shake him up and open up to each other, its the only way to go
Post # 5
Well he actually spoke to me today and we worked it out – so all is well again (kinda).
@Valhalla – My FI is a mustang fan and has been buying a retarded amount of car parts for his mustang. I am trying to run our house on a minimal budget and he goes and spends several hundred dollars in one week. I am currently unemployed and think the money deal is a big thing and all of this could wait till we are more stable.
Post # 6
@evabride – One piece of advice I heard (I think it was Jean Chatzky on the Today Show) was to have monthly “budget” meetings where you evaluate financial goals, budgets heading inot the future and where you’ve spent $$ the past month. FI and I try to do this (usually more like every 2-3 months). I’ve found this has been really helpful since I’m the one who tends to overstress about finances. It has helped tremendously for opening communication and helped us to grow stronger as a couple because we’re on the same page! Good luck!