(Closed) Cold Feet vs Relationship problems

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

What sorts of things are you fighting over? It’s really common for couples to fight during wedding planning over wedding details, budgets, etc. But if you are having fights over more serious things, and he is refusing to talk and instead acting like a 2 year old, then that is a different story. These types of issues are the exact type of thing that should be dealt with prior to getting married. Have you considered pre-marital counselling? Consider all the marriage prepwork the ground for a successful marriage. And communication is key to a successful marriage.

Could you list some examples of things you are fighting over, if you are comfortable doing so?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

During this wedding planning process we have fought alot too at the beginning, but now we are 6 wks away and have such a stronger bond between us.  I’ve met alot of people lately that are married for more than 20 years and I ask them what tips they have for me and all of them basically said the same thing ‘always communicate and dont sweat the small stuff’. Me and FI are living up to that now and this morning almost fought again over misunderstanding and we didnt sweat it, reminded each other we shouldnt and moved on from it.  Being a baby or pouting is poor communication skills and FI use to do that all the time but you need to shake him up and open up to each other, its the only way to go

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@evabride –  One piece of advice I heard (I think it was Jean Chatzky on the Today Show) was to have monthly “budget” meetings where you evaluate financial goals, budgets heading inot the future and where you’ve spent $$ the past month.  FI and I try to do this (usually more like every 2-3 months).  I’ve found this has been really helpful since I’m the one who tends to overstress about finances.  It has helped tremendously for opening communication and helped us to grow stronger as a couple because we’re on the same page!  Good luck!

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