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I think that just about everyone I know is engaged. I have six friends engaged and two on their way to being engaged (one just needs to graduate school is her bf's stipulation, and the other will most likely be engaged by next year if she graduates on time). It's just weird--we're all 21/22, which I thought most people would say is too young, but then everyone I know seems to be engaged!
If you're a college aged girl and engaged, are a lot of other people you know engaged? Maybe it's a southern thing, who knows.
Hehehe... I'm in college and I'm 32. Am I still a college aged girl? (please say yes, please say yes!!) :)
Haha I will say you fit the qualifications.
It's not just my friends though--its people in my classes. Three girls I know in one class are also engaged!
Def a southern thing. I was 22 (day after I graduated college--i'm counting it), but one of the youngest of my friends. Most were 23/24. The boys from my college tend to propose about 6 months into their new engineering job--take advantage of their starting salaries, lol. Definitely far more common out here than back in, say, California.
Haha, yeeeeeeeeeeees!!
That just made me so happy, for real! Ah, I loathe aging.
Layla, I'm contemplating switching majors and transferring colleges right now, and I'm a senior... by the time I finish, I'm not going to be the 21 year old partier either! I seriously think college makes people younger--you sit around and hear the crazy things your classmates do, and you don't have to be there all day, five days a week! So don't feel like you're not college aged! :)
Have you noticed any classmates that are engaged around you? I assume you go to one of the many colleges in ATL like GT or GA state, I mean that's pretty southern!
I know tons of people getting married or are already married back in Indiana. My hubby on the other hand, who only knows people in NYC, doesn't know anyone really who is married or engaged yet lol We're both young as well (me 21, almost 22, and he's 24).
I'm 21 & I only have 1 friend that is married so far. A lot of girls that I went to high school with are married, but the majority of them are LDS so I think that's more of a regional thing. I get flack about being young ALL THE TIME! & believe me it's getting old! It's not like I'm dropping out of school to get married! I go to Boise State right now but my FI is in the Air Force & stationed in New Mexico so I'm transferring schools after we get married.
Whew, sorry its become somewhat of a heated subject haha. I'm tired of being hassled!
For Canada that is really young!
I am 26 (still in school but we won't talk about that hahah - I am doing a PhD now) andthis summer coming up will be the summer 3 of my good friends are getting married so we will be 27 and this is VERY common - none of my friends are married yet! And it is very normal and accepted to get married any where from 25-35!
I guess it is just a regional thing!
I'm getting married right before I turn 22 and I do know a lot of girls around here (South Dakota) get married still in college or right after. I even know a few that were engaged before they graduated high school. I think it's a regional thing, my friends in California and in Europe swear that they won't even think about marriage until their thirties.
It's really common in my area too, just over the Mason Dixon line. I'm 21 and plenty of the girls in my classes are sporting e-rings. I've probably seen half a dozen sparklies crop up since the summer...not that I'm looking, of course. 
My sister was really young when she married--twenty--but it was the right thing for her, and she and the BIL are still happy as clams.
Within my particular group of friends, I will probably be the first to get engaged. They're really smart, really talented gals, and the next natural step for them is grad school and comfy careers in law and publishing. My life will probably be less of a straight shot than that, but oh well!
I would definitely say it's common in the South! My last year of college (uhm.. last year), there was a new engagement almost every weekend (actually.. it was every weekend in September..) and most of them were married by this past summer. And I definitely noticed a lot of new engagement rings among my peers my last semester.. I guess it's that "ring by spring" saying come true!
I always get the "young" thing. I'm 22 and got engaged at the end of 1st semester senior year. I'm now in grad school and absolutely cannot wait to get married! I know everyone thinks it's really young but it really varies by situation.
I was 22 when I got engaged and also still a college girl. I got married at 24 and got married a few months after graduating college.
Its funny how people seem to get married at the same time. There were a few people who got married right out of or really close to high school. 22 & 23 brought a big wave of girls getting married out of college. I'm 25 now & 1 yr out of grad school. My FI & I had 10 weddings to go to this year with at least 3 more next year not counting our own.
Mmmm... a Southern thing. All my friends are either single (as in not even dating) or married. And I am 24! I come from Malaysia and among my friends back there I am one of the first to get married. There marrying early seems to be reserve for the uneducated who have nothing better to do than get married and have babies and not have to concentrate on their careers. I very gently reminded my grandpa that I am very highly educated by most people's standards and very intelligent everyone's standards ;)
Not JUST a southern thing! J and I both went to Christian colleges, neither in the South, and I'd say 65-70% of our friends got married within a year of when they graduated.
About a third of them are already divorced. :(
I think a lot of girls I know/knew got married right out of college at least partially because it was one thing they could control when they were graduating and looking for a job, or because it seemed like the 'natural' step after graduation; if you're both moving on from school and finding a job in a new city, why not do it together?
I don't think everyone is that way, but I definitely knew a few who were.
I got engaged at 20, just turned 21, & we'll be engaged in August-he'll be 22 & I'll be 21, 3 months after graduating college!
None of my friends are in this situation, but I know one girl in a class that is engaged.
At 22 none of my college friends are married - and most of them are older than me! Loverboy's best friend is married, he's 20 and his wife is 19 - but they didn't do the College thing and I think that makes a difference. I just think they were more ready to start their life together because they didn't have the college mind-set going on.
A girl I was friends with in highschool is married working on her 2nd child - but we were never that close, one of my best friends is married and she's 23 but again, no college there. I really think around here college puts the engagement/marriage thing off a while. I have friends 26, 27, 28 who aren't married and they always so we're sooooo young. Like we don't know what we're doing *insert scrunchy grar face here*
I'm a New Englander and don't remember anyone in my classes or sorority being engaged. One friend got engaged the fall after graduating but she and her now husband moved to DC together and both were working when he proposed. I feel like most of my friends from college are getting married now (4-5 years after graduation). I'm currently doing my PhD in Germany where people get married much older. I've been to several weddings over the past year but no one was younger than 28. I even have friends who have been dating for 11 years and are not engaged, it is a totally different culture.
Haha, maybe it is a Southern thing...I'm a senior in college (I'm 21) and I'm engaged...and I have about 4 or 5 friends in my classes that are either 21 or 22 that are engaged as well!!
What a fun topic! I grew up in an affulent midwestern town so at 24, I'll be the second to get married (of almost 300 students in my HS class). I moved to Florida for college and shortly realized that this is where most girls thought they'd find "the one." A lot of girls here get engaged during their senior year (or first year of grad school if they were planning on going to g-school right away) and marry shortly after graduation. My FI actually said that he figured he'd meet his future wife at college (serisously, when else are you with 50,000 college aged kids in such a small town?).
I'm not sure if I'd be at the "marrying-age" if I still lived in Wisconsin but I'm sure as heck ready to marry him now! We'll be tie-ing the knot next May after he graduates with his Master's degree (I already have mine).
Personally I think college is a great time to meet a lot of cool people and if one of them happens to be the love of your life, its amazing! That doesn't, however, mean that either of you are ready to get married... I guess everyone has to figure that part out for themselves.
Yeah, there are about 3043 of us engaged. All about to graduate. :p
Interesting! I didn't know anybody in college that was engaged or married. I am 25 (will be 26 by the time I get married) and one of the first in my circle of friends to wed. I grew up in Sacramento and went to school in San Francisco.
I think it's definitely a regional or cultural/religious thing. I'm 24 and FH is 25 and we'll be 25 and 26 when we get married. We have a large circle of friends, and only one couple is married, and only because he's in the military. No one else is even engaged. No one either of us knew in college got married. Most of our friends are getting themselves situated in their careers before they worry about mariage. But FH and I are lucky because we both found awesome jobs right out of college. I don't think I would be ready to take this step if I were unhappy with my career.
I didn't have a lot of friends in undergrad that were engaged but I do remember seeing a lot of rings on fingers during classes! Now that I'm in graduate school I see a lot more men with rings so I guess everyone got married over the summer! The majority of people that my husband works with did get married this past summer before starting the job and we are all 22-23 range.
I don't think it's regional at all. It's a life-phase thing. You're going to be hearing about engagements and weddings for the next 10 years.
Graduating from college is a big milestone and the first time for a lot of people to be out on their own. If you've been in a serious relatioship, thinking about grown-up life leads down that path, I think.
I'm in college and engaged. I get the young thing from people who don't know me, but people who have known us as a couple for the past 5 1/2 years expect it. I think that people often assume a certain level of immaturity because of our ages, but I have seen more people engaged/married young recently.
While my FI and I know we made the right decision for us, a relatively young marriage in our mid-20's, I'm thrilled that there are so many options for young women... I have friends getting married, having babies, getting their PhDs, and starting amazing careers... Just 40 years ago, my mom felt pressure to get married because it's "what you were expected to do," and it ended in divorce. I also think women are starting to feel comfortable marrying in their 20s now because it is not a career-killer anymore. When my mom got married decades ago, she was expected to choose between her career and being a wife. That is so not the case anymore... I can have my wedding and my masters degree, too, thankyouverymuch!
As far as I know, it is very common for people in the south to get married earlier, however, I live in California, and many many young people I know are engaged (or recently married) as well. As much as I hate this generalization, I think it's more of a Christian - no sex before marriage / more emphasis on marriage - thing with people I know.
Well lets see I was 22 when I got engaged and by 25 I will be married and have my doctorate! I am from the south but I don't know if it is particularly a southern thing or a social status type thing. I mean most of the girls I went to high school with who did not go to college are already married and having babies. Whereas most of the people I went to undergrad with are just now getting engaged or have very recently gotten married and most of the people that I am doing post grad school stuff with are either in long term relationships, getting married after school or are holding off on marriage until they establish their careers.
So yeah I think it is just a life phase thing as to when you get married.
I love all the interesting perspectives on this topic!
I agree with it being life phase related, but I feel like it's still cultural, too. It's not like anyone in my family was surprised when we got engaged, but his family (from NE) were more wary of us getting married so young, which triggered the question if it's regional.
I definitely think that regions come into play here. I mean, there are always exceptions, but I'm from New England and when I hear about people getting married under 25, I just think it's so young. I graduated college in May 2008, and only know of two people that got engaged right after graduation and then married this past summer. I didn't know anyone engaged while we were in school. Maybe I'm taking the romance out of it, but I know what the divorce rate is for people who get married under 24, and I guess I just don't see why people risk it. No one thinks they're going to get divorced when they get married, but half of marriages fail, so I feel it's wise to keep these things in mind. That being said, my parents have been married 33 years and they got married when they were 20. I have two cousins that started dating their husbands when they were 11 and got married when they were 21 and are 33 now and are as happy as can be. So I say do what you feel is right for you and your relationship and see what happens. :) For me, I definitely would wait until mid to late-twenties (maybe early thirties. haha).
i have friends that got married at 18, 20, and 21... i will be 22 when i get married next year. and have one other friend who is married. i seem to be at the end of the group, as most of the people i know are already popping out babies.
@ BostonBee - I think every couple is different. I personally feel as if FI and I are married already, we have lived together for close to a year, have been dating for 5 1/2, and will get married in June 2012 after an almost three year engagement (because we want to wait until we graduate and are financially independent from parents.)
I know everyone thinks they will not be the statistics, but just wanted to point out that to us, "why not just wait" feels almost offensive. We HAVE been waiting, and will continue to wait until our financially independent marker.
I also agree that every couple is different. That's why I said that everyone should do what feels right for them and their relationship. For me, I can't ignore the statistics. I also live with my boyfriend, and he talks about getting engaged in 2011 (when we graduate law school). I'll be 24, and I told him that I would of course say yes, but we would need a longer engagement. He's from the south and wants to make an honest woman out of me. haha. I didn't mean to imply that everyone should wait until later to get married, just that it's right for me.
I'm a junior in college and have been engaged since the summer after my first year. A lot of the girls from my hometowna re married or engaged already. My two best friends are already married as well, although they are not in college. My fiance has been graduated since 2005. He is 7 years older than me.
I'm from the midwest and getting married 3 weeks after I graduate (undergrad). A few of my friends are engaged or married, but not many. Its not too uncommon here to get married at 21, 22, 23, 24.
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