(Closed) College friends: inviting one roommate and not the other. Awkward?!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

You can either ask the roommate you’re inviting to be discreet, don’t invite her, or invite her and not worry about what the other roommate thinks if you’re not friends with her.

You refer to them as roommates, are they your friends?

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Are they YOUR roommates? Or simply each others’ roommates?

That’s tough; it’s like the college equivalent of only inviting one half of a couple.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Are you still living with them now?  So the drama queen already knows she’s not going to get an invite?  If you bothered to invite her now, would that mend what’s happened, or has everything already been ruined?

Have you talked to the roommate you do want to invite?  It sounds like you don’t care if you lose her friendship.  You might be prepared for the drama queen to unfriend you, but will she be miserable for the roommate she still(?) has to live with, be friends with?  I think that’s what you need to figure out.

If you don’t care to lose her friendship, and it isn’t going to be a problem for the good roommate, OK.  But if this is going to be messy, I think you need to consider inviting both or none.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House

I think if you’re only inviting 2/12 from this group of friends, and one is so close she’s a BM, then its no big deal to not invite the other.

Do you keep in touch with the drama queen one? That’s the big question. I’m inviting 1 out of my 6 roommates/suite-mates from college. She’s the only one who wasn’t a huge drama queen and who has made an equal effort to stay in touch despite the fact that she’s the busiest and has kids now. I thought for sure I’d be inviting the other one from senior year… but she has completely lost touch and I’ve lost interest. Life goes on…

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

dont invite anyone you dont WANT to be there! it’s YOUR day!! you dont want unecessary drama at your wedding….ask yourself if you will be talking to this drama queen 5 yrs from now

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