Post # 1
Okay bees, I really need your help!! My FI (whoa, I get to say that now!!) proposed a few days ago, and I am excited to start planning a wedding! I’m in college now, and I will be taking 5 years to finish, so we’re looking at getting married in 2015, because I want to be done with school first. Here’s the problem I’m running into…when?! We are financially stable right now, and I have a pretty good full time job while in school, plus plenty of savings. But once I graduate, I know I will want to find a better job with my degree. I don’t want to run into the problem of having to take time off for the wedding and honeymoon just a few weeks into a new job, and I don’t want to wait to start job searching either! We both like the idea of getting married in May, so I was looking at May 9th as the date. My college graduation is May 13th, a Wednesday! I figure we could leave for our honeymoon on the day after gradaution, and come back early the next week, and then I could start my job search. Does that seem crazy or too much?! I just don’t know! I don’t want to do the Saturday after graduation because it’s the 16th, and I have a thing against even numbers–I know it’s weird! Anyway, input would be lovely!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)
I think it depends what your last semester will be like, if you have a major that has serious finals than I would be a little worried about having finals and the wedding going on at the same time. Otherwise, I don’t think it’d be a problem! I wasn’t stressed at all my last weeks of college (I was student teaching) so that wouldn’t have bothered me. 🙂
ETA: If you have other friends who will be graduating you may want to double check when their graduation is, I know mine and the majority of my friends were on a Saturday. If there are people you really want at your wedding that will be graduating around that time just double check that their graduation isn’t the same day as your wedding!
Post # 4
@smg5281: Good point! If everything goes as planned with my schedule, my last semester will be only elective classes, all really low level classes too. I’m planning on having this year be my hardest year, and then next fall will be somewhat difficult and next spring will be the easiest of them all! 🙂
Post # 5
I think your plan sounds fine. A girl in my class got married a week before our convocation/gradutation ceremony and she didn’t seem stressed. Don’t your classes/exams end a bit before your actual grad anyways? We had several weeks inbetween classes/exams and our actual ceremony. They need time to mark everything and confirm you passed. So you should be “done school” for a few weeks anyways, which would give you time to get wedding stuff organized.
Post # 6
If you are financially secure now and will have no problem with paying for the wedding and honeymoon, I’d do them both after graduating and take a month or 2 before starting the new job. The way I look at it, you have your whole life, until you retire at least, to work. Whats another month off out of decades ahead of you. Why rush into it instead of relax after the wedding and take some time for the honeymoon. I took a month off after graduating to travel and so glad I did. It is definitely harder to take long periods of time off after starting to work.
Post # 7
@jenniferleighh: I think that would be fine as long as you get as much possible done as early as possible! Really utilize summer and winter breaks!
Post # 8
My mom got married the weekend after graduation and I’m getting married over the break before my last semester (and my friend got married Spring break of her last semester). If you have someone to help who isn’t in school (mom or planner) or if you are a remarkably organized and disciplined person you can absolutely make it work,
I’m also on this messageboard when I should be studying for a regression midterm, finishing (make that starting and finishing) a problem set, and preparing key points for a discussion of yield curve trading strategies… wedding planning is distracting.
I would consider the fact that in most fields it is much harder to find a job after graduating – you will most likely be busy with recruiting and interviews from mid fall senior year until you land an offer (unless you’re in a field where interns get offers in the summer btwn jr. and sr. year) but there is a nice natural break between graduation and work that would allow for a leisurely and carefree wedding and honeymoon.
there will never be a 100% perfect time but as long as you weigh the pros and cons I think a wedding around graduation could be absolutely wonderful.
Best wishes and best of luck!
Post # 9
My wedding will be 3 weeks after my graduations (Im in graduate school), I have not found it to be that difficulty at all. I had an 19 month long engagement which has been plenty of time to plan. I have 90% of wedding planning done.
Post # 10
I’m getting married two weeks after graduation, and a few weeks before boards. I say do it! It will be a whirlwind, but an awesome one 🙂
Post # 11
It will work out perfectly. Our wedding was a day before my college graduation. A few days after graduation, we moved across the country. I’m also a teacher so my last semester was internship so it was busy. It really will work, but organization, lists, and schedules will be your best friend.
The only downside I experience was I wasn’t as excited for my graduation because I was so happy to be married. I wanted to be right next to my new husband and not sitting, waiting to cross the stage. But, ya know, whatever, it was nice celebrating my own accompliments with my family and friends.
ETA: I had 5 months to plan. So, again, it was busy, but organization was key for me. You have much longer so you could get most of your wedding planned and plenty of DIY pieces done to focus on your last semester of school.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2016 - Charleston, SC
@jenniferleighh: I wouldn’t do it! I’m in my last semester now and not engaged/planning a wedding yet. We’re waiting until after I graduate in 2 months (partly) for this exact reason. I couldn’t imagine trying to put together a wedding on top of finals and even regular assignments, plus graduation requirements! I’m not sure what your school’s requirements are, but mine requires a portfolio of work from all 4 years and a seminar presentation and paper. You won’t want to worry about trying to meet those deadlines while also preparing to get married. I’d wait for sure!
Post # 13
We’re getting married two weeks after my professional school graduation for basically the same reasons you mentioned (not wanting to take time off for wedding/honeymoon shortly after starting job) etc. It has been a bit stressful for me so far, but mostly because our engagement will be relatively short (8 months total). I also can’t deny it’s been somewhat distracting (I’m supposed to be studying for my board exam right now!) but for us the pros outweighed the cons. I think its absolutely doable and for me May 2014 will just be an extra special, if slightly busy/stressful/crazy, month!
Post # 14
Thanks everyone for the input!! I looooove having this website to turn to for things like this. You ladies are the best!
Post # 15
No. Graduation is a big event in and of itself. Don’t take away from the excitement of achieving your degree by blending it in with the wedding.
Post # 16
Speaking from experience, your last semester of college is stressful (even if it’s mostly electives).
You’re job hunting, taking finals, maybe a “profesional” exam (for me it was the fundimentals of engineering exam), and wedding planning?????????
Wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to much. I’d wait at least 9 months after graduating (assuming you have the funds/ job lined up) I’m not trying to rain on your parade, but you’ll be able to enjoy it so much more if you wait a little. You only get married once, you should have the time to enjoy it and not have to stress over college @ the same time.
Good luck to you.