Colors for the mothers/fathers of the bride/groom?

posted 3 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
10837 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@alysee: Like the sound of your BM dresses! As long as it doesn’t clash then it’ll be fine. My Mum’s dress was a colour that wasn’t part of the wedding at all. I’d see what colours they like as a starting point.

Post # 4
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Our dads will be wearing the same tux as our groomsmen, but while our groomsmen will be wearing blue vest/tie, the dads will be wearing black vest/tie.


My mom has a black dress with blue embelishment.  I have no idea what FMIL will be wearing yet.  We will need to go looking for her after the holidays. 


Really, for parents, 90% of what you want for them is to look good and confident. 

ETA: Our color is royal blue/colbalt blue/saphire blue depending on what book you are ordering out of. 

Post # 5
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

The dads will be wearing black suits like the groomsmen. The mom’s are wearing whatever they like. Our colors are black and red but my mom’s dress is navy. FMIL still hasn’t bought her dress.

Post # 6
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@alysee:  my colors were navy and lavender.  my bridesmaids wore navy dresses and carried lavender flowers.  the groomsman wore black tuxes with lavender accessories.

i told both mothers, mine and his, they could wear any color they wanted.  my mom found a glittery navy dress and i thought it was perfect.  his mother also wore a navy glittery dress. 

Post # 7
1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My bridesmaids wore black dresses.  The groom, all the groomsmen & fathers wore the same black tux.  My mom wore silver, and FMIL wore gold.  We didn’t really have ‘colors’ but more an Old New York theme – black, white, red, with touches of silver and gold.  I really like the way everything went together.  I told the moms they could wear whatever they wanted, as long as it wasn’t red, white, or navy blue.  I don’t like the way navy blue looks with black.  


For your colors, I would suggest the moms don’t wear red (too american flagish).  Purple, silver, pink, green, beige, any pastel sounds like it will work really!  


Post # 8
1479 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Our colors were Black, white, and red. But we didn’t want other family members wearing different shades of red or pink to coordinate, so we decided to just stick with jewel tones in general and it ended up working out great.


Post # 9
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

It really is up to you and your vision… and of course what they themselves would like to do.

If it is tuxes, then ALL the men can be in coordinating tuxes.  Or the Dads in Suits.

Women (Moms) tend to have a distinct idea of what they want.  They can coordinate (I don’t like everyone matchy matchy personally… cause the Moms are the Most Honoured Guests, not part of the Bridal Party)

So in the same colour family looks nice… (or SIDE of the colour wheel)

Bridesmaids are say in Powder & Cornflower Blue… then one Mom could do Navy and another a Deep Purple.

They’ll look great with their Men, the B&G, together for both sides, and also in family shots if you happen to have a Sibling who is a Bridesmaid or Groomsman / Usher

OR they could do something radically different… and just take the “feel” of the look you are looking to convey, not the colour per se

So for example in the above scenario, if you were doing a Gatsby Wedding, they wouldn’t have to just stick with Blue or Purple as their tie-in to the look of the Wedding… they could wear any colour of their choosing… but the sytle of their dresses could speak to the Gatsby theme

PHOTO – Example, MOB Gatsby Style (Rose coloured, but colour goes well with Blue & White)

According to Traditional Etiquette, the Bride & her Mom discuss options, the MOB taking her cue as to what to wear from the Bride’s vision… and perhaps shop for the MOB Dress together.  And once that is established the MOB, shares her dress info (or a pic) with the MOG, who takes her cue from the info she now has at hand… Bride’s Vision for the Wedding, and what the MOB has chosen.  It is not appropriate for the MOG to try to upstage either of these women.  If the MOG feels she needs more info / help, she should consult with the Bride (who has seen the dress that her Mother will be wearing)

So in the above scenario… the MOG could opt also to do a Flapper Style Dress… and in any colour of her choosing.  Just as long as her dress isn’t any more ornate say than the one chosen by the MOB (ie fabric, beading, embellishments etc)

Hope this helps,


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