Colour of Bow Ties and Cumber Buttons

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Back in the 70s the guys wore pastel color tuxes, sometimes to match the color of the gals they were paired up with in the bridal party, or went to the prom with. I wore light blue, to my junior prom (1973), and so did my date. I hope I burned those photos – lol!

daughter 1 – bridesmaids eggplant – grooms wore eggplant vests, bowties, and pocketsquares. groom and ringbearer had black vest and bowtie and white pocketsquares. all had white shirts.

daughter 2 – bridesmaids in gold. groom and ringbearer wearing gold vests. groomsmen wearing black vests. All men wearing gold bowties and pocketsquares. all white shirts. Dessy group gowns and accesories purchased.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

SunnySunnybee:  First, are the men wearing tuxedos? If the men are wearing tuxedos, they look best worn with a vest or cummerbund that matches the tux. Colored vests can look sort of 80’s prom-ish.

You can bring in the wedding colors with the tie and boutonniere.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I absolutely loathe seeing vests/cummerbunds in a color that matches the bridesmaids. I think it looks tacky and like high school prom. Sorry, this is just a pet peeve of mine! My preference is for the guys to have their vests/cummerbunds match the tux and for the pop of color to come in the tie and/or pocket square. 

So I would ask your BF if he’d be willing to compromise and wear just a pink pocket square. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

what about a gray or silver cummerbund and tie? That would complement the pink well without being matchy matchy. 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

SunnySunnybee:  The burgundy will be fine. You are right, burgundy is in the same color family.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

SunnySunnybee:  The purpose of the cummerbund, or vest, is to cover the waistband of the pants, and the working parts of the shirt.  An evening formal shirt, which is worn with a tuxedo, is designed with a decorated bib, which is a rectangular, or sometimes u shaped, piece of fabric sewn onto the front of he shirt.  This decorates the shirt for a formal occasion, as well as the diuble layer creating a pristine, stark white, avoiding any translucence in the shirt front.  A white v shape of shirt, dramatically contrasts the black jacket, framed by the silk faced lapels of he jacket, drawing the eye up to the face, which is dramatically underlined by the bow tie.  because the jacket can splay open below its buttoning point, especially when one puts his hands in his pockets, a white triangle of shirt can be shown below the button, immediately drawing the eye to the navel, and crotch.  For this reason, a waist covering, which is either a low cut waistcoat/vest, which is totally hidden wgen the jacket is closed, is worn to cover the bottom of the shirt, and the waistband of the pants. This covers the working parts of the shirt and pants, which are incongruous with formal attire, and also maintains the unbroken line of black, that gives a man height, athleticism, and elegance, in evening lighting conditions.  For this reason, black is the traditional, most correct, and best choice.  Classic alternatives are more suited to less formal occasions, but they are very dark, rich, and as close to black as possible.  Very dark burgundy/maroon, green, and plum, are the most traditional choices for going away from black, and are best as cummerbunds.  A properly cut formal vest in these colours would have to be custom made, or, maybe, found vintage.

I would stick with black, self tie bow ties (look better, not hard to learn to tie, and you can buy them for $15 from http://www.thetiebar.com)

Before ordering, I would read http://www.theblacktieguide.com .  You may choose not to follow the traditions, but this way you will be making a conscious choice that you want to, because of what you like best.

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

SunnySunnybee:  I am totally against the whole matchy matchy thing! FI was in a wedding last year that had the groomsmen wear black tuxes with black matching vests. The only thing color about them that matched the ladies was their bouttineire (that’s totally spelled wrong…)! 

My color is coral (pinky orange). Luckily, our tux shop (well actually theyre renting suits…) had these paisley ties that have just a touch of coral in them mixed with white. I was against them wearing totally coral ties because I think it looks weird! Their vests (3 piece suit) are going to be the same charcoal gray fabric that the suit is made out of. FI’s tie is going to be ivory paisley. No matchy matchy for me! I think it looks WAY better without it, personally. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

weatherbug:  yep.  Vests with any kind of suit (suit meaning multiple garments of the same cloth) should pretty much always be the same fabric as the jacket and pants.  Odd vests with suits are very difficult to do well.  

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by  Duncan.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Our colors are coral and green, accented with gray/silver. So my bridesmaids are wearing coral dresses and silver shoes. The guys are wearing charcoal suits with green ties and coral pocket squares. So there’s a bit of reference to the coral, without being too much. You could always reference the pastels and pinks with the boutonnieres. That way it’s not matchy matchy.

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