colours? they dont work on bigger girls??? What?

posted 3 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’d just put your foot down. Its your wedding, not hers. If black and navy blue arent in your wedding colors, then she isnt going to wear them.

Post # 4
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think that you can choose to wear whatever you want, and it’s is great and healthy that you wear whatever you want, but light colors like the ones you mentioned ALWAYS make a person look bigger. so, if I were you, I would respect her decision to not wear champagne, ivory, cream, stone, etc. it’s usually true that it isn’t flattering.

Post # 5
5968 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@Kissed_by_lightning:  I think it’s kind of a false idea that dark colors make people look smaller. I think it has way more to do with cut and fabric. It doesnt matter what color it is, if a dress fits well and flatters a figure, that’s what is gonna count. I would put my foot down and pick a color for her.

Has she gone to try on dresses in person? have her put things on her body, I find that things tend to look completely different on and she might be surprised.

Post # 6
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 Size has nothing to do with it. If those are the colors you want I say go for it.

Post # 9
10899 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Kissed_by_lightning:  I am full-figured, and, as long as the dress is a flattering style, I don’t think the color matters.  Yes, I, too, often have ended up purchasing dresses in darker colors, because I usually find them to be more figure-flattering.  I also love wearing certain colors and dislike wearing others.

However,  this is your  wedding. You  are the bride, and you  are the one who gets to choose the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses, not your attendants.

The only time I think that the bride needs to compromise is if her vision for a particular style  of bridemaids’ dress (i.e. something that is too short, or offers no way for a maid to wear needed supportive undergarments, or has a slit that is too high to be modest, or has a silhouette  that would make some of her maids look as if they are pregnant when they’re not, etc.) would not be at all flattering or appropriate on one or more of her bridesmaids.  Then,  I think that the bride needs to modify her vision for the comfort of her attendants.  But, if someone just doesn’t like the color, or thinks a long dress is impractical, or hates satin, that person needs to realize that her tastes and preferences are not the primary consideration.

Post # 10
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Kissed_by_lightning:  Pick a color you like and move on.  If she is that adamant about not liking it, then I would offer her a way out of wearing it by attending as a guest in any color she desires.  I think champagne looks nice on pretty much everyone.  IMO the only color that is truly slimming is black and unless you’re dressing them in Barney purple it’ll be fine.

On a side note, my mom absolutely refuses to wear purple because she’s convinced everyone thinks she looks like Barney due to her weight.

Post # 11
2813 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow… I’m definitely a plus size girl and I absolutely wear light colors. As long as the cut and fabric are flattering, and the color works with your skin tone, any size person can wear any color. And honestly, it’s your wedding – it’s nice that you’re taking her preferences into account, but if she won’t even *try* dresses in the colors you want, I think she’s being a little unreasonable. 

ETA: @Brielle:  +1. Exactly this – if a dress is too short, terribly unflattering or won’t allow a bridesmaid to wear a supportive bra, you should keep looking… but color? I think that’s the kind of thing where she just needs to suck it up. 


Post # 12
1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i have to agree….light colors generally look  bad on larger sizes. its not 100% as there are definite exceptions but i always feel that every lump and bump is magnified by light colors


that being said its your wedding….. but make sure you see the actual dress in person in the right color first bc you are going to be the one staring at those pictures (which add even more weight!)

Post # 14
2962 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@KatieBklyn:  +1 One of my BMs was a plus size and she TOTALLY rocked coral! I did go with a flattering material (chiffon)

Post # 15
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

She doesn’t get the final say, you do. It seems like you have given her plenty of options, and if she won’t wear any then she should come as a guest.

Post # 16
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I pretty much agree with what PPs have said– I’ve ranged in size from 12-20, and I’ve worn all colors. It did take me a while to warm up to cream, but like others have said the shape of the garment makes way more of a difference than the color. My favorite cardigan is cream, and I wear it all the time! And honey, YOU’RE the bride. You’ve been really sweet trying to accommodate her, but if you want lighter colors or creams or lace, go for it. I’m sure you’ll find a dress that’s cut well to flatter her figure in the color that you want.

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