Post # 1
Ok so i just lost a lil wight I am about a 12 now … i been 10-16 my whole life
2 of my brides maids arre 14-18 dep on how they are doing size wise sometiems down to 12… anyways
One is being very fussy on colour … I have(always even at my biggest) loved wearing stones (light to darker greys) and creams and Champagnes
so after she put down the mint saying it did nothing for her … i started thinking u woukd move into the stones and champagnes, since the colours are gonna be mint and stone or mint and shades or cream ivory and champane(my groom suggested those b.c. they are classy and beautiful)
she has now informed me that stone makes a curvy girl look like a manatee and champagnes and creams look horid on full figures
i feel like wow she wont wear mint she wont wear a dark stone she wont wear a light stone she wont do mix matched lace in neutrals (i love that look soooooo much) i feel like she wont wear anything unless its like black or dark blue (these are what she tends to wear formal)
She is a size 14 right now she isnt evne really plus size (i have been 10-16 my whole life even as a teen i am 5’9 and curvy so i really dnt get all these rules on colours I always just wore what i felt pretty in)
what can I do? Any suggestions would be great.
Do you think as a curvy girl that you can’t wear these colours?
Have i just never noticed that i shouldn’t have worn them and loved them on me lol or is she just a lil sensitive about her wight I mean I was bigger then her 3 months ago I just been super active over the summer got down to a 12 and i really have always wore colours like that I wear what ever i like always have
Post # 3
I’d just put your foot down. Its your wedding, not hers. If black and navy blue arent in your wedding colors, then she isnt going to wear them.
Post # 4
I think that you can choose to wear whatever you want, and it’s is great and healthy that you wear whatever you want, but light colors like the ones you mentioned ALWAYS make a person look bigger. so, if I were you, I would respect her decision to not wear champagne, ivory, cream, stone, etc. it’s usually true that it isn’t flattering.
Post # 5
@Kissed_by_lightning: I think it’s kind of a false idea that dark colors make people look smaller. I think it has way more to do with cut and fabric. It doesnt matter what color it is, if a dress fits well and flatters a figure, that’s what is gonna count. I would put my foot down and pick a color for her.
Has she gone to try on dresses in person? have her put things on her body, I find that things tend to look completely different on and she might be surprised.
Post # 6
Size has nothing to do with it. If those are the colors you want I say go for it.
Post # 7
@stardustintheeyes: +1 I think it has more to do with the fabric than the color.
Post # 8
she is really being stubborn on not even wanting to try on something in a lighter family of colour 🙁
I think i will try and talk her into trying some things maybe try them on my friend who happens to be bigger and is pleased and excitied to try stuff on its really hard … cuz i mean i dont want to be insensitive but i really dont feel these colours look bad if you get a good well fitted and made dress
Post # 9
@Kissed_by_lightning: I am full-figured, and, as long as the dress is a flattering style, I don’t think the color matters. Yes, I, too, often have ended up purchasing dresses in darker colors, because I usually find them to be more figure-flattering. I also love wearing certain colors and dislike wearing others.
However, this is your wedding. You are the bride, and you are the one who gets to choose the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses, not your attendants.
The only time I think that the bride needs to compromise is if her vision for a particular style of bridemaids’ dress (i.e. something that is too short, or offers no way for a maid to wear needed supportive undergarments, or has a slit that is too high to be modest, or has a silhouette that would make some of her maids look as if they are pregnant when they’re not, etc.) would not be at all flattering or appropriate on one or more of her bridesmaids. Then, I think that the bride needs to modify her vision for the comfort of her attendants. But, if someone just doesn’t like the color, or thinks a long dress is impractical, or hates satin, that person needs to realize that her tastes and preferences are not the primary consideration.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Kissed_by_lightning: Pick a color you like and move on. If she is that adamant about not liking it, then I would offer her a way out of wearing it by attending as a guest in any color she desires. I think champagne looks nice on pretty much everyone. IMO the only color that is truly slimming is black and unless you’re dressing them in Barney purple it’ll be fine.
On a side note, my mom absolutely refuses to wear purple because she’s convinced everyone thinks she looks like Barney due to her weight.
Post # 11
Wow… I’m definitely a plus size girl and I absolutely wear light colors. As long as the cut and fabric are flattering, and the color works with your skin tone, any size person can wear any color. And honestly, it’s your wedding – it’s nice that you’re taking her preferences into account, but if she won’t even *try* dresses in the colors you want, I think she’s being a little unreasonable.
ETA: @Brielle: +1. Exactly this – if a dress is too short, terribly unflattering or won’t allow a bridesmaid to wear a supportive bra, you should keep looking… but color? I think that’s the kind of thing where she just needs to suck it up.
Post # 12
i have to agree….light colors generally look bad on larger sizes. its not 100% as there are definite exceptions but i always feel that every lump and bump is magnified by light colors
that being said its your wedding….. but make sure you see the actual dress in person in the right color first bc you are going to be the one staring at those pictures (which add even more weight!)
Post # 13
thanks I am feeling alot less worried now … i had started to wonder if maybe i just ingored taste and style rules of colour … i always felt fine wearing any colour so hearing that size ment no to alot of colours had me feeling well stressed lol
i am hoping to pre shop and find flattering things in the colours i like in lots of different shades of them to give her some choices then i will twist her arm get her to try it on maybe she will be suprised with how great she looks in things she never tried on
Post # 14
@KatieBklyn: +1 One of my BMs was a plus size and she TOTALLY rocked coral! I did go with a flattering material (chiffon)
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
She doesn’t get the final say, you do. It seems like you have given her plenty of options, and if she won’t wear any then she should come as a guest.
Post # 16
I pretty much agree with what PPs have said– I’ve ranged in size from 12-20, and I’ve worn all colors. It did take me a while to warm up to cream, but like others have said the shape of the garment makes way more of a difference than the color. My favorite cardigan is cream, and I wear it all the time! And honey, YOU’RE the bride. You’ve been really sweet trying to accommodate her, but if you want lighter colors or creams or lace, go for it. I’m sure you’ll find a dress that’s cut well to flatter her figure in the color that you want.