- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
So I just got married in August. My close friend is getting married tomorrow. Her, her fiance myself and my husband have hung out on several occasions over the past year since they moved home. She has talked to us both about the combined bachelor/bachelorette party they were going to have Thursday night before the wedding. Two days prior she texts me to inform me it starts at 5 (an hour from where I live and I work til 4:30) She clearly cared a lot that I could come. She then suggests my husband drops me off and picks me up later that night in town which is 30 minutes from where we live. I asked her if the party was still co-ed and she said yes but it’s bridal party only. So I now had to tell me husband he couldn’t come and i certainly wasn’t going to ask him to drive me around all night but that he couldn’t join us. So I text her to find out what bar to meet them at and I arrive and I dont see them anywhere, so I wait, and wait and wait in my car. I text her to find out if they were there yet, no answer, I finally text someone else and find out they were inside the whole time. Ok, whatever, it was a mistake. So we go in and it’s the guys and the girls from the wedding (the man of honor is my ex and we are on good terms). So we decide to go to another bar and suddenly one of the bridesmaids friends and her boyfriend show up and she starts introducing her to everyone like she came out for this party. Then the brides sisters friend and her husband shows up. I start to realize it was apparently bridal party only just for me. I confronted the bride about it and she said “well it just worked out like that” and well my fiance didn’t get invited to your husbands bachelor party. I quickly snapped at her and said “my husband didn’t have a bachelor party, we went camping before the wedding with a bunch of guys who wernt even his friends, they were friends of friends and one groomsman showed up!” (and yes he texted several guys about going camping). she then said well only one groomsmen had a date they’re bringing to the wedding so I reminded her that I’m married and my husband is not just a date. I got very upset with her and left and told her it was rude and she was inconsiderate and left. Was I wrong to think how she treated my husband and I was wrong? And that it was rude of her to uninvite him and tell me he wasn’t invited while he other bridesmaids could invite who they wanted?