(Closed) Combined Thank You card acceptable?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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14784 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that you can do them both on one.  It really is the point that you are taking the time to thank them that really counts.

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Post # 4
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1217 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have no idea what the proper etiquette was, but personally if I attended both parties I would be fine with getting one card that mentioned both parties. As long as it’s handwritten and heartfelt I would be happy as a clam getting one card 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think technically it should be different, but given the girls at the bachlorette are probably those closest to you, go ahead and combine them. Just be sure to talk about both events and make them a little more thoughtful and longer.  If it were a good friend of mine this would be more than OK.

Post # 6
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12568 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think one is sufficient as long as you address both gifts!  “Thank you for coming to my bridal shower and bachelorette – coming to both was above and beyond the call of duty!  It was so fun to celebrate with you at both events.  I also want to thank you for the toaster and the lingerie – everything was so generous of you!  Can’t wait to see you at the wedding!” 

Post # 7
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11228 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Unfortunately, from an etiquette standpoint, the answer to your question is no. Because they were given for two separate occasions, each gift requires its own thank-you note.

Post # 8
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My personal opinion is that if they can go through the time and expense to buy me two gifts, I’m going to put the time and small expense into expressing my gratitude for both in separate cards.

I don’t know what the etiquette dictates, that’s just my opinion.

 

Post # 9
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3699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

At this point, you could get away with one note for both, just make sure you mention both. 

For anyone else – write your thank you’s the Mon or Tues after so they come in the mail before the next weekend and this isn’t a question. 

Post # 10
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would say it should be okay to write one for both, but after reading a couple of PPs responses I’m suddenly unsure. Maybe you could write one card and include a pic of you +the guest from one or both events.. I don’t know. I have to say this is a new one for me lol

Post # 11
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@almostmrsj:  I think that while ideally the week after to write the thank you’s is awesome, that’s not always possible since life can/does get in the way sometimes 🙁

Post # 12
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5773 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d be ok with one for both since they were both pre-wedding events and they occurred around the same time. If I got two cards in the mail on the same day I would think it was a waste.

Post # 14
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think one card is fine.  The girls at your bachlorette party are probably the closest to you and wouldn’t mind one card.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mayflowerbride13:  Sure, everyone is busy.  But if I had time to go to a party someone threw for me where everyone was buying me booze or giving me presents, I surely had enough time to write thank-yous.  It’s a matter of priority.  I’m sure your guests feel the same – they made the time to come to your parties. 

I wrote all my thank-yous for my shower that same day, for wedding gifts as they came, and for gifts received at the wedding the week after.  I did have to set aside time to do it, but not as much time as some of my family spent in a car or on a plane to come celebrate with us. 

I don’t mean to pick on you, but I feel strongly that the least you can do is send a simple timely thank you to the people who care for you the most and spend their time and money to show you.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@almostmrsj:  Kind of off topic, but since we share the same perspective: you say you wrote the wedding gift TY cards as the presents came. So I take it you opened the presents before the actual wedding?

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