Post # 1
I know this isn’t typical, but do you think it would be okay to combine my thank you’s for my bridal shower and my wedding, as in thank the gift giver for both gifts in one card? I know in an ideal world, I should just send separate cards, but my time is extremely limited (I have a very demanding job and work a ton of hours). My shower was back in October, and my wedding was November 2nd. I had intended to send out thank you’s for my shower before my wedding. I wrote about 1/2 of them and left them on the coffee table in my living room. My Husband (Fiance at the time) accidentally spilled beer on them when he had his friends over to watch football. I rewrote most of them, but wrote in them “Looking forward to celebrating with you again in November,” but ran out of time and didn’t get them out before the wedding, so those too ended up in the trash. At this point the shower was almost 3 months ago, and the wedding over 2. Most people gave us money at the wedding and a household item at the shower. I would say “Thank you so much for your generous wedding gift, and the [household item from shower] was perfect!” or something similar. Even though only the females attended the shower, I was planning to thank both members of the couple in the shower thank yous anyway. What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
@AGTbee: I think they should be separate as they are two different events… To me thank yous are the most important part of a wedding besides getting married! Haha
Post # 4
Really not cool. Your guests spent money on you twice and you should thank them twice. since the cards are already late going out, you may just want to start calling people and thanking them personally.
Post # 5
@AGTbee: Nope and no. Please, No.
Post # 6
@AGTbee: Better late than never. If combining the thank-yous is the ONLY way you are going to get them done, I say go ahead.
It’s not what I would do, but I think the guests from an October shower are starting to wonder where their thank-you notes are.
Unless there were many many guests at the shower, I would dash those off first using a less formal card, then start working on the wedding thank-yous.
ETA I just wanted to add, be prepared for the negative backlash if you do combine the notes. There are definitely guests who will think ” She managed to find the time to attend the shower, open the gifts, take them home and use them, but now she’s too busy to send a separate thank-you note?
Post # 7
At this point I see where julies1949 is coming from to some extent, but I would still try to send separate notes. Consider how you would feel if all of your guests sent you a single gift meant to cover both events and expected you to be OK with this because they were really busy working and had problems finding time to choose gifts or getting to the post office or whatever.
Post # 8
I would do separate notes (ASAP).
Post # 9
Sorry, but no. Using the busy excuse is really no excuse. Everyone is busy! You could do all of your shower thank-you’s this weekend and put them in Monday’s mail. Have a marathon thank you card writing session with your husband and get your wedding thank you’s out by the following Monday. You.can.do.it!
Post # 11
I’m honestly surpised. I didn’t think it was that big of a deal, I’m still thanking everyone for their gifts. I added a poll 🙂
Post # 12
I wouldn’t be offended but I may roll my eyes. I think it’s kind of lame. My thought is that brides have time to plan “this and that” for their fancy weddings, but tend to come up with excuses for untimely thank yous. But, it’s better than nothing!
I do find it important to note that I have not yet had a shower or a wedding of my own so take my opinion for what it is.
Post # 13
Nope. I’d still do 2 separate cards. Start on the shower, get those done and mailed. Then move onto the wedding.
Post # 14
What is there to be offended about? It’s still a thank you.
Post # 15
In the hour since this thread was posted, you could have written ~10-15 thank you cards. Traditional etiquette would be that you would send a separate note for each gift, but if you need to condense it into one to get them written, I would do it and do it ASAP. Everybody’s busy and nobody really likes to write thank you notes, but if you have time to post on Weddingbee, you have time to write your thank you cards.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t be offended but I would probably roll my eyes. I don’t like the “too busy excuse.” If you did only 2 a day you would have over 120 done.