Post # 1
I am having second thoughts on changing my last name. FI’s last name is super common and mine is very unique, like I am the only one with my name. I have casually asked before if he would mind changing his last name to mine, mostly because he has said before that he doesn’t like his name and has even thought about changing it before. However, when I mentioned this he didn’t seem too exicited about the idea.
So I have been thinking about bringing up doing what some couples do and combining our last names. One combination we could make is “Shines” which I think I kind of love. Does anyone have any experience with combining names? I have heard that in some states laws make it more difficult for men to change their last names than women.
Post # 3
A pdf available here: www.oregon.gov/DHS/ph/chs/registration/docs/marriagenamech.pdf
suggests that you will have to do a court-ordered name change. At marriage, either a man or a woman can choose to 1) keep their surname, 2) take their spouse’s surname, or 3) hyphenate their original surname with their spouse’s surname. Anything else requires a court order. Which is not to say that you can’t/shouldn’t do it – I think it’s a great idea. But you’ll have to go through a longer process, it looks like.
Post # 4
You will probably have to go to court and pay to change his name. If you want to do this, I would consider changing his before you get married so that you can just change your name normally after you are married.
Post # 5
I agree that the best method to achieve this would probably be for him to legally change his name to the new name (via court order) before you get your marriage license, and then after your wedding you change your last name to his (which would already be the new last name). The downside of the court order is that it takes time and costs money (a couple hundred dollars I believe), but it is totally possible!